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In response to
"I'm willing to adapt, I'm just not willing to put up with bullshit. -- nm"
by
loosilu
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I really think I get what you mean.
Posted by
Facto (aka FactoFail)
Mar 30 '11, 20:31
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I am surprised at how annoying many friends can be.. for instance, buddies of mine.. whiney
I have certain rules in relationships: I go with the flow, I don't ask personal questions, I am a listener, and I focus on the giving, not the getting. I wasn't always like that, but it works better. Being demanding only gets you nowhere. Que sera sera - whatever will be, will be. I don't subject her, any her, to any kind of third degree. I find I get all the answers and cues I need much better, by just being with them - and really listening to all they say. Usually, if something happens in the relationships, the cues were all there, earlier on.
I have to say, I can't recall right now, any relationship, where she did anything outside of how she had already described her personality, her ways and her standards. It's all about being attentive. But I can see how there are loads of guys out there who are not - too much into their own amusement, hobbies, careers or just.. themselves.
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