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the dude is being ridiculous. it's not his business. -- nm

Posted by loosilu (aka loosilu2) Apr 1 '11, 12:06

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If shes not in connection with this guy anymore, then I dont think it matters too much..... - Walt_ Disney Apr 1, 12:18
It's gone beyond that though, it's no longer about whether she slept with him, it's about her lying to him about it. -- nm - Ender Apr 1, 12:09 18
- we all understand that you can sleep with someone and not date them, right? honestly, i get why she just said 'no.' -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:11 17
  - I think we all know what the guy wanted to know, regardless of his word choice. - Dr.Vermin Apr 1, 12:21 1
    - L4 at your IM -- nm - Guy Apr 1, 12:23
  - (as in, it so doesn't matter, and it wasn't a relationship, and she just never thought of it as 'dating') - Andie Apr 1, 12:12 12
    - the guy should have been more specific in his questioning. :) -- nm - Guy Apr 1, 12:25
    - This may be the first one of these I've ever disagreed with you about. - pmb Apr 1, 12:17 9
      - i agree it wasn't fully forthcoming, but i do get where she's coming from. -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:22
      - I....think....that's what Andie is saying. (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:20 7
        
        I don't think so (but I could be wrong). I think she's saying that the woman answered the question correctly and honestly. - pmb Apr 1, 12:22 6
        
        not exactly, i'm saying i can see why she's be okay answering it that way, and not feel like she was lying. - Andie Apr 1, 12:23 5
        
        So, "correctly", but not necessarily "honestly", right? (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:24 4
        
        totally. -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:26 2
        
        actually no, more like "honestly" but not "correctly." -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:26 1
        
        Ok, but what I'm not clear on is whether you think she answered "correctly". Because what I think I'm taking from your answer is that while you agree - pmb Apr 1, 12:33
        
        I can get on board that train. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:25
    - Your IM is it. She said "no" because she could rationalize the decpetion. - musubi Apr 1, 12:15
  - She just said no because she could justify in her own mind that she wasn't "according to Hoyle" lying. - Jim Apr 1, 12:12
  - thank you. (and again, why are we explaining this to dudes?) -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:11
Except she didn't say "it's not your business" she said "no", which is a BIG FAT LIE. - TWuG Apr 1, 12:08 56
- I love this fallacy that there is such a thing as a 100% honest relationship -- nm - Guy Apr 1, 12:21 11
  - This has little to do with that. She gave a false answer to a direct question. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:22 10
    - I don't really see much difference in fudging on a "past lover" question vs a "do these make my ass look fat" question. - Guy Apr 1, 12:27 9
      - There is a huge difference. If Girl Incognito f**ks another guy, you'd wanna know. I'm wagering you don't care much if she unflattering pants. - musubi Apr 1, 12:42 4
        
        six years ago?? get a hobby! -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:44 3
        
        Regardless, it's obvious the two questions aren't remotely comparable. (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:50
        
        word. as Vermin said, I know she's been with other guys and no part of me wants to know the details - Guy Apr 1, 12:48
        
        She fucked the dude 6 years ago...but she lied about it today. Period. -- nm - Jim Apr 1, 12:47
      - We agree here. Like Pippy said, she should have stuck to the 'lie' to the end. - Dr.Vermin Apr 1, 12:37
      - Touching his wife's feet and sticking your tongue in the holiest ain't the same fucking ballpark. of holies - Jim Apr 1, 12:33
      - This is a black and white answer situation, unlike the pants question. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:30
      - Big difference. HUGE difference. -- nm - TWuG Apr 1, 12:29
- This. If she told him, "It doesn't matter" or something, it's his hang up. - musubi Apr 1, 12:09
- they didn't date. not a lie. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:09 42
  - Semantics. You shouldn't have to parse the words of your SO to find out the real answer. If she told him when he asked and he was pissed off I'd say - pmb Apr 1, 12:14 1
    - Once again, I endorse pmb's take on the situation. (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:16
  - it's not a lie, but it's withholding information - which is just as bad. - decline Apr 1, 12:13 1
    - ok, I can agree with that. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:13
  - There may be times when dating doesn't mean fucking, but there is never a time when fucking doesn't mean dating. - TWuG Apr 1, 12:12 20
    - It's like the rounding the bases metaphor. You can't say you didn't get to first base with someone after touching the other 3 bases just because you never actually kissed. - Ender Apr 1, 12:20 2
      - Best. Analogy. Ever. (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:44
      - shit, this is gonna turn into a five-board argument between musubi and david over OBP -- nm - moles Apr 1, 12:22
    - if i slept with some random stranger tonight. and tomorrow we both said 'thanks bye', at no point was that 'dating.' -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:13 16
      - I will allow this, but then again, I would have never asked "Did you date anyone?" I would ask "Did you see anyone?" And all these examples *do* - Spawn Apr 1, 12:16 11
        
        i have in fact asked this question of boyfriends when i thought i detected a 'history' between them and whoever - Andie Apr 1, 12:19 10
        
        If a guy asks this, it is considered rude. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:24 7
        
        I learned not to ask questions I don't really want to know the answers to -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 12:25 5
        
        *fist bump* -- nm - Guy Apr 1, 12:40
        
        What I meant is that it is rude for a guy to ask a lady this. - Spawn Apr 1, 12:27 3
        
        you are so mannerly. -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 12:30 2
        
        I am a gentlemen. - Spawn Apr 1, 12:31 1
        
        heh -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 12:33
        
        well, remlik is entitled to *some* privacy -- nm - moles Apr 1, 12:25
        
        If, by chance, you had phrased it, "Did you ever date PersonX?" - musubi Apr 1, 12:22 1
        
        probably. but if i found out 6 years later that they'd randomly hooked up one night i wouldn't freak out. -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:24
      - this - Epiphany Apr 1, 12:15
      - Nobody's arguing that. - Strongbad Apr 1, 12:15 1
        
        actually, i was answering the line directly above mine. -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:18
      - right (see spawn?) -- nm - moles Apr 1, 12:14
  - "it depends on the definition of is" -- nm - Strongbad Apr 1, 12:11
  - "So I gotta specifically ask if you f**ked a guy to get a straight answer?" (nm) - Boyfriend Apr 1, 12:10 7
    - Let's not be vague, it sounds like you need to clarify exactly which sexual acts may or may not have occurred to get a truthful answer. -- nm - Ender Apr 1, 12:14
    - "What about a BJ? Does a hand-job count?" -- nm - Strongbad Apr 1, 12:12
    - yes. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:11 4
      - And that mindset is exactly the kind of hairsplitting that leads to hairsplitter getting dumped. (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:13 3
        
        If someone is that hung up on it, I probably dumped him. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:14 2
        
        She's obviously the one hung up on something. Why lie? -- nm - Strongbad Apr 1, 12:18 1
        
        because she knows he's hung up on it? -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:29
  - A fuck is a date. I know, women think differently, but it is. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:09 7
    - i would not call just sleeping together a "date" or "dating" - moles Apr 1, 12:10 1
      - Hooking up is a date. A certain kind of date, but it is a date. - Spawn Apr 1, 12:12
    - usually I've heard guys argue the complete opposite. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:10 4
      - In the context of a boyfriend asking if you dated a specific person clearly an intimate physical relationship - musubi Apr 1, 12:12
      - Usually? As in how many times? -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:11 2
        
        none of your business! -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:11 1
        
        Um, that's not how the logic game goes. You have to give examples... - Jim Apr 1, 12:21
Yes he is, but yes it is. -- nm - Dr.Vermin Apr 1, 12:06 5
- she told him they dated. it's not Victorian England. do the math, dude -- nm - moles Apr 1, 12:07 4
  - no she didn't. - znufrii Apr 1, 12:08 2
    - Exactly. She lied. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:09
    - She not dated a lot of guys - you can see where he would be confused - Epiphany Apr 1, 12:09
  - Uh, no, she didn't. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:08

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