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In response to "the dude is being ridiculous. it's not his business. -- nm" by loosilu

Except she didn't say "it's not your business" she said "no", which is a BIG FAT LIE.

Posted by TWuG Apr 1 '11, 12:08

Lying is bad, mmmkay?

You do not build a healthy relationship on a foundation of lies.

6 years ago should should have either said "none of your business" or "yes" and gone from there. Instead she chose to lie.

Responses:

I love this fallacy that there is such a thing as a 100% honest relationship -- nm - Guy Apr 1, 12:21 11
- This has little to do with that. She gave a false answer to a direct question. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:22 10
  - I don't really see much difference in fudging on a "past lover" question vs a "do these make my ass look fat" question. - Guy Apr 1, 12:27 9
    - There is a huge difference. If Girl Incognito f**ks another guy, you'd wanna know. I'm wagering you don't care much if she unflattering pants. - musubi Apr 1, 12:42 4
      - six years ago?? get a hobby! -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:44 3
        
        Regardless, it's obvious the two questions aren't remotely comparable. (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:50
        
        word. as Vermin said, I know she's been with other guys and no part of me wants to know the details - Guy Apr 1, 12:48
        
        She fucked the dude 6 years ago...but she lied about it today. Period. -- nm - Jim Apr 1, 12:47
    - We agree here. Like Pippy said, she should have stuck to the 'lie' to the end. - Dr.Vermin Apr 1, 12:37
    - Touching his wife's feet and sticking your tongue in the holiest ain't the same fucking ballpark. of holies - Jim Apr 1, 12:33
    - This is a black and white answer situation, unlike the pants question. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:30
    - Big difference. HUGE difference. -- nm - TWuG Apr 1, 12:29
This. If she told him, "It doesn't matter" or something, it's his hang up. - musubi Apr 1, 12:09
they didn't date. not a lie. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:09 42
- Semantics. You shouldn't have to parse the words of your SO to find out the real answer. If she told him when he asked and he was pissed off I'd say - pmb Apr 1, 12:14 1
  - Once again, I endorse pmb's take on the situation. (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:16
- it's not a lie, but it's withholding information - which is just as bad. - decline Apr 1, 12:13 1
  - ok, I can agree with that. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:13
- There may be times when dating doesn't mean fucking, but there is never a time when fucking doesn't mean dating. - TWuG Apr 1, 12:12 20
  - It's like the rounding the bases metaphor. You can't say you didn't get to first base with someone after touching the other 3 bases just because you never actually kissed. - Ender Apr 1, 12:20 2
    - Best. Analogy. Ever. (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:44
    - shit, this is gonna turn into a five-board argument between musubi and david over OBP -- nm - moles Apr 1, 12:22
  - if i slept with some random stranger tonight. and tomorrow we both said 'thanks bye', at no point was that 'dating.' -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:13 16
    - I will allow this, but then again, I would have never asked "Did you date anyone?" I would ask "Did you see anyone?" And all these examples *do* - Spawn Apr 1, 12:16 11
      - i have in fact asked this question of boyfriends when i thought i detected a 'history' between them and whoever - Andie Apr 1, 12:19 10
        
        If a guy asks this, it is considered rude. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:24 7
        
        I learned not to ask questions I don't really want to know the answers to -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 12:25 5
        
        *fist bump* -- nm - Guy Apr 1, 12:40
        
        What I meant is that it is rude for a guy to ask a lady this. - Spawn Apr 1, 12:27 3
        
        you are so mannerly. -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 12:30 2
        
        I am a gentlemen. - Spawn Apr 1, 12:31 1
        
        heh -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 12:33
        
        well, remlik is entitled to *some* privacy -- nm - moles Apr 1, 12:25
        
        If, by chance, you had phrased it, "Did you ever date PersonX?" - musubi Apr 1, 12:22 1
        
        probably. but if i found out 6 years later that they'd randomly hooked up one night i wouldn't freak out. -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:24
    - this - Epiphany Apr 1, 12:15
    - Nobody's arguing that. - Strongbad Apr 1, 12:15 1
      - actually, i was answering the line directly above mine. -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 12:18
    - right (see spawn?) -- nm - moles Apr 1, 12:14
- "it depends on the definition of is" -- nm - Strongbad Apr 1, 12:11
- "So I gotta specifically ask if you f**ked a guy to get a straight answer?" (nm) - Boyfriend Apr 1, 12:10 7
  - Let's not be vague, it sounds like you need to clarify exactly which sexual acts may or may not have occurred to get a truthful answer. -- nm - Ender Apr 1, 12:14
  - "What about a BJ? Does a hand-job count?" -- nm - Strongbad Apr 1, 12:12
  - yes. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:11 4
    - And that mindset is exactly the kind of hairsplitting that leads to hairsplitter getting dumped. (nm) - musubi Apr 1, 12:13 3
      - If someone is that hung up on it, I probably dumped him. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:14 2
        
        She's obviously the one hung up on something. Why lie? -- nm - Strongbad Apr 1, 12:18 1
        
        because she knows he's hung up on it? -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:29
- A fuck is a date. I know, women think differently, but it is. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:09 7
  - i would not call just sleeping together a "date" or "dating" - moles Apr 1, 12:10 1
    - Hooking up is a date. A certain kind of date, but it is a date. - Spawn Apr 1, 12:12
  - usually I've heard guys argue the complete opposite. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:10 4
    - In the context of a boyfriend asking if you dated a specific person clearly an intimate physical relationship - musubi Apr 1, 12:12
    - Usually? As in how many times? -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:11 2
      - none of your business! -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:11 1
        
        Um, that's not how the logic game goes. You have to give examples... - Jim Apr 1, 12:21

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