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quad bonus hax chat: he tells her that he would never marry a woman who won't name their firstborn son the name he's already picked out.

Posted by moles (aka chris) Apr 1 '11, 12:55

Future ultimatum??

The other night, my fiance made a comment about a baby name he had picked for his first born son, and then made a comment about how he would never marry a woman who did not agree to that name. I think the name is ridiculous (not a weird name, it's traditional, but it's something I don't think would be fair to the child)...and to top it off, I'd like to have a say in what I name the baby I am going to be spending 9 months gestating! I was hoping that when it came down to having kids, we'd sit down and pick a name together. I don't know how to bring this up several days later, it seems stupid to have waited this long, but the comment REALLY bothered me. Any suggestions as to how to bring it up?

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What if's she's marrying Thurston Montgomery IV, you know the next boy is going to be V -- nm - ceregon Apr 1, 13:42
Slip the delivery nurse $ 20 to let her fill out the birth cert. Name the child whatever you want - Epiphany Apr 1, 13:03 4
- (but where do you keep the $20?) -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:08 3
  - The question is: where would she get $20? Guys who behave like this wouldn't let the little woman have cash of her own. -- nm - Mop (211 lbs) Apr 1, 13:33
  - with the baby so the doctor gets it first. nm - sycor Apr 1, 13:10
  - D'oh! -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 13:09
"and heaven forbid if our firstborn is a girl" -- nm - znufrii Apr 1, 13:02 1
- LOL! -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 13:04
"I don't agree." Call his bluff. - con_carne Apr 1, 13:00
see a fertility doctor. she names all the rest -- nm - peglegpete Apr 1, 13:00
Oh for fuck's sake...as soon as it came out of his mouth, you shoot that shit down. -- nm - Jim Apr 1, 12:59 5
- Guys who talk like this are trouble. If he's an a-hole about this, then what else is he an a-hole about? -- nm - Mop (211 lbs) Apr 1, 13:29
- Her only option now is a, "Wait... you were serious? I thought that was just a (bad) joke!" -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 13:03 3
  - i would probably do this. Like 'that was so absurd i just assumed you were joking.' - Andie Apr 1, 13:23
  - or just be the one who tells the nurse first what name to put on the birth certificate then let him deal -- nm - moles Apr 1, 13:04 1
    - yes -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 13:06
listen, Kirk Solo Skywalker is a fucking fine name. -- nm - Beaker Apr 1, 12:59
what about a woman who wants to marry a guy but not take his last name? -- nm - Remlik Apr 1, 12:59 16
- I told my wife to keep her last name. It's too memorable a name to change. -- nm - pmb Apr 1, 13:25 1
  - it's an *awesome* name. -- nm - Andie Apr 1, 13:27
- My wife kept her last name. But she did use my last name as her air-name in Ohio - TWuG Apr 1, 13:23 3
  - is her radio name Craven Morehead? - Remlik Apr 1, 13:27 2
    - No. No she is not. - TWuG Apr 1, 13:29 1
      - Robin Graves? -- nm - Remlik Apr 1, 13:37
- any guy who thinks i'm giving up my last name at this point just has to deal with it. - Andie Apr 1, 13:17 4
  - Look, can we at least talk about hypenating? -- nm - Jimmy Lights Apr 1, 13:19 2
    - I dated a guy once whose last name was Lee. Hazard-Lee? Also, referencing the General Lee / Dukes of Hazzard. - Andie Apr 1, 13:20
    - *snerk* -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 13:19
  - Your last name is too awesome to give up. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:18
- That's up to the couple to work out. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:06
- is there something you want to share with us? -- nm - moles Apr 1, 13:01 2
  - oh no. I went down that route once and she hyphenated -- nm - Remlik Apr 1, 13:02
  - Spawn Remlik has a bad ring to it. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 13:01
- That there is a "run away". - Spawn Apr 1, 13:00
Run away. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 12:56 39
- But that's your answer to everything boyfriend-related. - nubby Apr 1, 13:06 1
  - they need to stop saying stupid shit like that! -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:06
- this -- nm - sycor Apr 1, 12:58 36
  - Fiance. Too late. Shame on her for not discussing it before now. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:58 35
    - Why would it be too late? They're not married. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:05
    - she didn't know he had an ultimatum until now -- nm - moles Apr 1, 12:59 33
      - See the last part of my message. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 13:00 32
        
        it wasn't her obligation to discuss something she didn't know was an issue with him -- nm - moles Apr 1, 13:01 30
        
        Before you get engaged, you talk about kids. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 13:02 29
        
        You're supposed to ascertain whether he has a random idiotic rule about names? -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:07 18
        
        See where I said "Before you get engaged, you talk about kids"? That is the part where... you know... you talk about the kids. The names, the #, etc -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 13:09 17
        
        who talks about names before they get engaged? -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:09 16
        
        People who, for example, have been hearing it from their mother that their first kid should be named after grandpa, God rest his soul. - con_carne Apr 1, 13:14
        
        I knew what I was going to name each of my three kids when I was 16. -- nm - nubby Apr 1, 13:12 7
        
        nubbin, nubsauce and nubbsta. nm - Dignan Apr 1, 13:14 1
        
        i'm laughing at this way more than i should - moles Apr 1, 13:17
        
        am I a freak? I have never chosen a baby name. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:13 4
        
        The guy in this advice question isn't choosing it either -- nm - con_carne Apr 1, 13:15 3
        
        that's quite an assumption. -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:18 2
        
        Granted, but I'm going by the comment on the name he wants being "traditional" -- nm - con_carne Apr 1, 13:22 1
        
        there's still quite a leap to get to "family requirement". -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:24
        
        we did. -- nm - Diva Apr 1, 13:12 2
        
        way to ruin it for me. - loosilu Apr 1, 13:13 1
        
        Yours was a wild assumption. Deevs did you a favor. -- nm - con_carne Apr 1, 13:18
        
        *raises hand* -- nm - znufrii Apr 1, 13:10 1
        
        I am totally winning this thread! -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 13:12
        
        People that have a plan. Like the guy in this story, for example. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 13:10 1
        
        you're right, it's her fault, she should suck it up. - loosilu Apr 1, 13:11
        
        you'd think - znufrii Apr 1, 13:07
        
        You'd think. And if it's that important to him, he would probably have mentioned it. Either way though... - Jim Apr 1, 13:03 6
        
        Hey, now. If people did the right thing at all times we wouldn't have advice columns. :) -- nm - con_carne Apr 1, 13:12
        
        he withheld therefore he LIED!! - Epiphany Apr 1, 13:07 4
        
        Marry me! -- nm - loosilu Apr 1, 13:08 3
        
        have you dated Taylor Hanson? - Epiphany Apr 1, 13:10 2
        
        it was just a hookup! - loosilu Apr 1, 13:10 1
        
        heh heh -- nm - Epiphany Apr 1, 13:13
        
        maybe they did and he didn't mention his feelings at that time. -- nm - sycor Apr 1, 13:02 1
        
        If so, she is in the clear and should use my "joke" line above. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 13:03
        
        She can still run away. She isn't married yet. -- nm - sycor Apr 1, 13:01
Easy. She should sneak and have her tubes tied. -- nm - Spawn Apr 1, 12:56

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