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In response to "IF YOU GUYS MUST TALK ABOUT ME PLEASE DO NOT REFER TO ME AS SHE, I'M TRANSGENDERED, IT'S DISRESPECTFUL....LOOSI DID YOU GET THAT? -- nm" by Stacy

Ok, I have to know...and I'm honestly not poking fun or anything. If someone were to use a pronoun when talking about you...

Posted by Jim (aka Jim) Apr 6 '11, 09:44

what should they use.

Cause, a conversation like this "Yeah, Stacy called me last night. Stacy had a rough day at work and could use some cheering up. So I'm going over to Stacy's house with some chicken soup and booze to cheer Stacy up" would be ridiculous.

There would normally be a lot of "she"s and "her"s in there. What would be the preferred pronoun there?

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I can't answer for Stacy, but I believe the answer is he/him since Stacy identifies as male. -- nm - ty97 Apr 6, 09:46 6
- ok, now I'm confused. -- nm - decline Apr 6, 09:49
- really? I thought Stacy identified as a she. But then again I missed a lot of the Stacy stuff. -- nm - sycor Apr 6, 09:47 2
  - Again, I don't want to speak for Stacy, but in general, a female-to-male transgender person would originally identify as she (due to anatomy) and then - ty97 Apr 6, 09:49 1
    - I'd guess closer to 95/5. -- nm - loosilu Apr 6, 09:50
- this is my understanding too. -- nm - mafic Apr 6, 09:47 1
  - The bottom line to me is, either spell it out in the wiki, or understand that not everyone will know and be able to follow your wishes. -- nm - mara Apr 6, 09:48
yeah, in my experience, it helps if there's a name change involved as well. -- nm - znufrii Apr 6, 09:46 8
- But in this case, "Stacy" is a sort-of gender neutral name. Like 70/30, which is better than most. -- nm - Beryllium Apr 6, 09:48 6
  - more like 95/5. -- nm - loosilu Apr 6, 09:52 1
    - I don't have any evidence to the contrary, so you might be right. -- nm - Beryllium Apr 6, 09:54
  - I don't know any men (original poster excluded) who go by the name Stacy. -- nm - znufrii Apr 6, 09:50 3
    - Rob Petrie's brother on the Dick Van Dyke Show. -- nm - pmb Apr 6, 09:51
    - The only example I can think of is Stacy Keach, monk's boss -- nm - Beryllium Apr 6, 09:50
    - I do. Well, Stacey, with an 'e'...but same difference really. -- nm - Jim Apr 6, 09:50
- *nods* -- nm - zork Apr 6, 09:47
cause quite frankly, I ain't using "hir". -- nm - Reagen Apr 6, 09:45
it? -- nm - Don Homer Apr 6, 09:45 2
- yeah, that's clearly disrespectful. -- nm - ty97 Apr 6, 09:46 1
  - yes, it is, and I apologize. -- nm - Don Homer Apr 6, 09:49

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