boston.com Love Letters - My Boyfriend's Friend Flirts w/Him.
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Apr 7 '11, 07:59
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Q: Hi Meredith,
My boyfriend and I are happily in love, good for each other, and it's pretty great.
Recently, a friend of my boyfriend came on to him; she asked him to break up with me and be with her. I had always had my suspicions about this girl, and though I made them known, I never asked him not to see her or anything as they had been friends for years. She's one of those girls -- dresses just a little too provocatively, feels the need to touch members of the opposite sex while in conversation just a bit too often, and in my opinion, is obviously insecure.
After this happened, I was pretty upset, but decided that since he had done nothing wrong, I wouldn't let it ruin us. Unfortunately that's not the end of this story. She continues to periodically reach out to him to see how he is doing, make plans, etc. The message back to her has always been clear -- thanks, but no thanks.
It's inevitable that I will run into her at some point. Never once has she made any effort to acknowledge me (or her outrageous actions) when trying to get back into his life. How do I handle it when I see her? I know the high road is best, but I would really like to express to her that her inconsiderate actions were very hurtful to me and that she put my boyfriend in a terrible position (some friend, right?).
� Can I Put Her in Her Place and Still Be the Bigger Person?
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Responses:
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the obvious answer is - obviously its time for a catfight. -- nm
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tRuMaN
Apr 7, 08:14
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Great spot for the BF. He could nail the friend. Then when she goes to the GF just say "she's lying baby, just to break up our love"
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Beaker
Apr 7, 08:08
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"and in my opinion, is obviously insecure" -- Delicious irony. -- nm
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David
Apr 7, 08:07
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Waitaminnit. Put more responsibility on your BF first. He's not to see her anymore, and he should put a block on her calls/texts. -- nm
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con_carne
Apr 7, 08:05
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Her handle pretty much answers the question. -- nm
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Roger More
Apr 7, 08:04
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baseball bat to the head from a dark alley. -- nm
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Beaker
Apr 7, 08:02
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Boyfriend needs to be more explicit, sounds like. -- nm
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loosilu
Apr 7, 08:02
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she should just have a threesome -- nm
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decline
Apr 7, 08:00
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