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bonus friday hax chat q: her friend is already bailing on marriage by shacking up with a non-husband dude. what duty does she have to the friend?

Posted by moles (aka chris) Apr 8 '11, 10:01

Atlanta, GA

My friend has been married for a few months, has decided it's not working (moved out, no divorce yet) and promptly has taken up living with another guy, who showers her with expensive gifts, promises of marriage and babies, and attention that she was lacking in her (current) marriage. It's all looking rather fast and red flags are flying. What can I say to her? Is it better to stand by and watch this train wreck, or do I risk losing her friendship by speaking up? I've already said "honey, don't you think this is going a bit fast?" to no avail. Anything else I can do? Thank you so much.

Responses:

don't judge her and be there when she asks for your help -- nm - JenBro Apr 8, 10:11
what business is it of yours? -- nm - Beaker Apr 8, 10:04
Find a new friend. -- nm - David Apr 8, 10:04 3
- Seconded. I would judge too harshly to stick around. -- nm - Name Withheld By Request Apr 8, 10:07 2
  - I'm not even joking when I say I wouldn't want to hang out with someone capable of something like this. -- nm - David Apr 8, 10:10 1
    - me neither. -- nm - loosilu Apr 8, 10:11
they need to have a threesome -- nm - decline Apr 8, 10:03 5
- that's your answer to all the chat questions -- nm - oblique Apr 8, 10:14
- alternatively: The letter writer should eff the ex husband. -- nm - loosilu Apr 8, 10:07
- *ding* - Epiphany Apr 8, 10:06
- couldn't have said it better myself -- nm - CQ Apr 8, 10:04 1
  - the whores need to have a threesome -- nm - Beaker Apr 8, 10:13
You've brought it up, she ignored you. Bring it up again at your own risk. -- nm - Jim Apr 8, 10:02 3
- Agreed. (nm) - musubi Apr 8, 10:08
- Right. Stay sensitive to her moods, encourage her to expand on any feelings of unease, but just be there as a friend. -- nm - mara Apr 8, 10:05
- Can't improve on this. -- nm - Dr.Vermin Apr 8, 10:04
Can you stop her? no. If her new lifestyle bothers you (which it would me), don't be friends with her. -- nm - loosilu Apr 8, 10:02
depends, does she want to keep her as a friend? -- nm - znufrii Apr 8, 10:02

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