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continuing the theme, poll-ish: what do you think are some guidelines for success when opting to move in together?

Posted by kare (aka kare) Dec 30 '08, 12:27

i'm just curious what people think.

i think a lot of it has to do with commitment -- if you're truly in it for the long haul, you'll hopefully have the motivation to truly work through the inevitable issues that come up. one would think.

also the obvious: great communication.

Responses:

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Keep the bathroom door closed, keep separate bank accounts (at first), budget together. -- nm - JaxSean Dec 30, 12:37
An ex-gf of mine saw it as a step to getting married. A pretty necessary one - con_carne Dec 30, 12:36
communication, luck, and personal space. - znufrii Dec 30, 12:33 16
- What would Roberta Sparrow say? -- nm - second gary Dec 30, 12:37
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  - I dunno if it's contrary. You can want to be home and read a book, enjoying comfortable mutual silence. - TFox Dec 30, 12:37 13
    - or the way my friends do it: she get up early, he goes to bed late. They each get their alone time/space -- nm - znufrii Dec 30, 12:39 11
      - I think deciding your own bedtime is huge, eventually. - TFox Dec 30, 12:40 10
        
        but, but, what about the, you know, *whispers* intimate times? - kare Dec 30, 12:41 9
        
        Naptime. I need my sleep at night. -- nm - Amy SuperHoop Queen Dec 30, 12:43
        
        you can have sex, t hen early bird goes to sleep, night owl stays up. -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:42
        
        That usually comes earlier in the day when we're not both so friggin tired. -- nm - TFox Dec 30, 12:42 3
        
        (I'm blending "married with kid" with "living together -- nm - TFox Dec 30, 12:42 2
        
        you know, i'm not sure what i'm thinking, deciding i want kids and all - kare Dec 30, 12:45 1
        
        Even the people who think they do don't. -- nm - TFox Dec 30, 12:45
        
        who says you need to go to bed for that? -- nm - znufrii Dec 30, 12:42 2
        
        znu so kinky! -- nm - kare Dec 30, 12:42 1
        
        you have no idea. ;) -- nm - znufrii Dec 30, 12:46
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I'd also say you should want to be there a decent amount. - TFox Dec 30, 12:32
Like marriage, acceptance that you now have someone else to always keep in mind. - Name Withheld By Request Dec 30, 12:31
I agree with those 2 bigtime. -- nm - MDH Dec 30, 12:30
I wonder about "a room of one's own," or its equivalent. -- nm - second gary Dec 30, 12:30 22
- overrated. own the room you're in. -- nm - TFox Dec 30, 12:33
- which reminds me, the whole "man room" thing is so unfair when there's not an equivalent "chick room" -- nm - kare Dec 30, 12:32 20
  - *cough*kitchen*coughcough* -- nm - Reagen Dec 30, 12:33 18
    - With an oven for - con_carne Dec 30, 12:37 1
      - chicken pot chicken pot chicken pot pie? -- nm - Beaker Dec 30, 12:39
    - L6 -- nm - Beaker Dec 30, 12:35
    - Remlik? -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:34
    - don't forget "bathroom" and "big closet". -- nm - TFox Dec 30, 12:34 11
      - do you "hang out" in the bathroom? Oh wait, you probably do. -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:35 10
        
        That's where the ESPN magazines and my poop are at, so of course. -- nm - TFox Dec 30, 12:36 9
        
        sounds like a Man Room. -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:37 8
        
        meh. too many fucking Yankee Candles, bath poofs, and toy boats to be a man room. - TFox Dec 30, 12:38 7
        
        Too much SI and poop to be a Woman's Room! -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:39 6
        
        Embrace your poop, ladies. It's just poop. -- nm - TFox Dec 30, 12:41 5
        
        We're fine with our own poop. But if you add YOUR poop, it is not my room any more. -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:43
        
        well, don't literally do it. -- nm - Reagen Dec 30, 12:41 2
        
        oh. *drops poop* -- nm - kare Dec 30, 12:42 1
        
        L4! -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:44
        
        I switch to tiny voice goblin at the best fucking times, I swear to god. -- nm - TFox Dec 30, 12:41
    - oh no you din't. -- nm - kare Dec 30, 12:34 1
      - Wedding dresses are white for a reason! -- nm - Shaun - 2008 Caveman Champion Dec 30, 12:35
  - I need an art room. -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:32
Lowered expectations. Not in a mean way at all, but it's hard to live with someone. -- nm - Amy SuperHoop Queen Dec 30, 12:30
1. Wait until after my mother has passed away. -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:29 2
- 2. A miracle. -- nm - Rorschach: 03/06/09 Dec 30, 12:30 1
  - see #1. -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:30
I think those are the big two. (Boring answer with no new input, I know.) -- nm - TFox Dec 30, 12:28 2
- neither of us thought of sex! we suck. -- nm - kare Dec 30, 12:29 1
  - because you can have sex anyway? -- nm - loosilu Dec 30, 12:29
Replace your very last word with "sex", and I agree. -- nm - Rorschach: 03/06/09 Dec 30, 12:28

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