ST Alpha - "On Love chat q.: is it bad for her to commit (physically) to her "best friend"?" (Reading a Post)

SlickerTalk
Search Archives
The Leaderboard
The FAQ

Down to Post

Backboards:

Posts: 166

On Love chat q.: is it bad for her to commit (physically) to her "best friend"?

Posted by moles (aka chris) Apr 12 '11, 11:34

is committing to a best friend bad?

Met my honey nearly 3 years ago. We are both middle-aged, no kids. Me - serial monogamist, had some great relationships, unfortunately buried two boyfriends. Him - not much dating experience. He was less sexual and comfortable with his sexuality and I was patient and okay with it. Then we became intimate and he has some mechanical problems. Everything is okay medically, so I figure it's just a comfort/confidence thing. No biggie. We're very affectionate, but haven't really had sex. I moved in last Sept - he's my best friend and we love being together. It's like being 5 and having a pajama party. But now that almost seems like a problem. I've never really seen him sexually and we're learning that we have very different natures. He's completely gentle, sweet and overwhelmed with his own body sensations. I'm looking for the Marlboro man minus the cigarette. We've each bought some card games that get couples to reveal what they like/dislike and to cause conversation and experimentation. It's good, we're both open. I just wonder if we really can find a way to satisfy one another. When he gets in his groove, I feel completely detached and objectified. I also understand how weird it must seem that I'm asking him to detach from his own sensations. Help!

Responses:

she's a librarian or a school teacher. those chicks are effin crazy -- nm - CQ Apr 12, 11:51 4
- Yeah. But I totally married a dude I don't get along with, just for sex. -- nm - Amy Apr 12, 11:54 3
  - this makes so much sense -- nm - Epiphany Apr 12, 12:03
  - make up sex precisely huh? -- nm - Danedukenuuk Apr 12, 11:55
  - priorities and all -- nm - CQ Apr 12, 11:54
I'm bouncing everyone in this paragraph - Epiphany Apr 12, 11:45 1
- it's for the best, really. -- nm - Diva Apr 12, 11:49
Buried two boyfriends? Run closeted boyfriend, run! -- nm - Amy Apr 12, 11:43 7
- yeah serious WTF? -- nm - Epiphany Apr 12, 11:45 6
  - that's what happens to the ones that don't perform. -- nm - loosilu Apr 12, 11:46 5
    - * Dance monkeys Dance!* -- nm - Crazy Love Chat girl Apr 12, 11:47 4
      - I'm the mayor of Matt's Bedroom! -- nm - Crazy Verizon Girl Apr 12, 12:01
      - Clearly, she should be grinding up a couple of Cialis and putting them in his morning juice. Then when he's got a raging 4 hour boner, pajama party's - Trish Apr 12, 11:55 2
        
        Your IM is *hot*. -- nm - Kobe Bryant Apr 12, 12:06
        
        *giggling like a loon* - Epiphany Apr 12, 12:01
[deleted]
Maybe he's just not that into you -- nm - ceregon Apr 12, 11:40
there are so many red flags in this I have no idea where to begin. -- nm - sycor Apr 12, 11:37
Sounds like she needs to chain him to the bed and attack his ass. -- nm - Jim Apr 12, 11:36 21
- he can't get it up! -- nm - loosilu Apr 12, 11:40 2
  - he obviously meant attack his ass with a strap on -- nm - dogbert Apr 12, 11:42 1
    - reading it again, he is so very GAY. -- nm - loosilu Apr 12, 11:43
- Not sure what is up with the "his groove" part, though. -- nm - Spawn Apr 12, 11:38 17
  - that was the biggest flag to me. she complains about his gentleness and then feel objectified? - sycor Apr 12, 11:39 15
    - The Marlboro Man would be a thoughtful and gentle lover. -- nm - Spawn Apr 12, 11:40 14
      - I'm thinking not so much. -- nm - sycor Apr 12, 11:46 12
        
        who played him in the movie? -- nm - Epiphany Apr 12, 11:47 4
        
        Mickey Rourke? -- nm - CQ Apr 12, 11:54 1
        
        Harley Davidson. -- nm - Spawn Apr 12, 11:54
        
        Don Johnson! -- nm - Spawn Apr 12, 11:47 1
        
        okay, I would have hit that -- nm - Epiphany Apr 12, 11:48
        
        well, he is dead. -- nm - loosilu Apr 12, 11:46 6
        
        rotting body parts that fall off during love making is a negative - Epiphany Apr 12, 11:49 5
        
        *cancels the zombie male prostitute I was sending to your house* -- nm - loosilu Apr 12, 11:50 2
        
        Your job gets weirder and weirder. -- nm - Spawn Apr 12, 11:51 1
        
        It's a button in the Excel ribbon -- nm - Beryllium Apr 12, 12:00
        
        Chicks don't dig the detachable penis. -- nm - Spawn Apr 12, 11:50 1
        
        if it detaches...its still undead right? so that means it would still want to.... - zeitgeist replacement droid Apr 12, 11:55
      - but she doesn't want him ashing his smoke on her tramp stamp -- nm - dogbert Apr 12, 11:41
  - Yeah...the whole paragraph is kinda fucked up. -- nm - Jim Apr 12, 11:38
he's ... not straight. -- nm - loosilu Apr 12, 11:36 4
- Yup. -- nm - pmb Apr 12, 11:52
- Right. No doubt. -- nm - Don Homer Apr 12, 11:46
- if he's still having mechanical problems after 7 months< i would lean towards this finding too -- nm - dogbert Apr 12, 11:40
- That was my first thought. -- nm - MDH Apr 12, 11:38
i can't even tell what this chick is talking about? whatever the issue is, it has nothing to do with "best friend". -- nm - TFox Apr 12, 11:36 1
- Thank you. I was starting to wonder if I was the only one puzzled by the best friend thingy. - Trish Apr 12, 11:50

Post a message top

On Love chat q.: is it bad for her to commit (physically) to her "best friend"?

Replies are disabled on threads older than 7 days.