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In response to "I enjoy the advise half serious and have humourous it makes a frustrating situatuion not so much -- nm" by eag

It hurts that's for sure. I still would rather be dumped that dump them.

Posted by Bacon (aka redmond) Apr 14 '11, 22:05

Pain goes away faster than guilt. For me anyway

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I would rather dump them, every time. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 22:18 9
- I know my friends think I am nuts. Guilt does a mindfuck on me though. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:19 8
  - it's very simple to me. If I'm going to dump them, that's inevitable. Hanging on would be far worse. Dumping them is the best way. - loosilu Apr 14, 22:21 7
    - Oh I do it. I just hate doing it. It lingers for awhile. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:38 6
      - it doesn't eat at me at all. maybe I am an evil beyotch. - loosilu Apr 14, 22:40 5
        
        I am in the minority. I know that. -- nm - Bacon Apr 14, 22:41 4
        
        I am not sure that's true. I've heard many people say that. - loosilu Apr 14, 22:43 2
        
        My friends agree with you. I think it's because me dumping someone is my choice to reject them. Being dumped is out of my hands. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:45 1
        
        Me not liking them is out of my control. dumping them is necessary. - loosilu Apr 14, 22:49
        
        I am with you there. -- nm - Spawn Apr 14, 22:43
It might be wishful thinking but I think things will still work out - eag Apr 14, 22:08 49
- I just know what I have read here. Which gives me little perspective other than experiences I have had with women myself. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:13 48
  - We were on the brink of a relationship and she hit the breaks hard, why? - eag Apr 14, 22:20 36
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    - Oh and a little more background on her - eag Apr 14, 23:05 12
      - maybe you have smacked her around a bit, you know, to get her attention...made her write bad checks for you -- nm - zeitgeist Apr 14, 23:19
      - it doesn't matter. given her history, I'd say it is likely the better you are for her, the faster she will run. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 23:15 1
        
        I actually agree with that - eag Apr 14, 23:19
      - however much space she's asking for, multiply it by like a million -- nm - moles Apr 14, 23:08
      - You may be the best guy on paper but love is blind. -- nm - Bacon on a droid Apr 14, 23:07 7
        
        All im saying - eag Apr 14, 23:14 6
        
        I think you are totally wrong. You have overthought this to oblivian. - Bacon on a droid Apr 14, 23:19 1
        
        Well she isnt going out of her way to return it - eag Apr 14, 23:25
        
        if she was hurting more, she'd be calling you right now. - loosilu Apr 14, 23:17 3
        
        I mean long term not now -- nm - eag Apr 14, 23:20 2
        
        come back in a year and we'll see. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 23:20 1
        
        Like she would tell me if it were the case - eag Apr 14, 23:27
    - I think she was in 'love' with the idea of being in love, but not in love with you...but also I think we've all been in a situation where the gal is.. - zeitgeist Apr 14, 22:33
    - It never makes sense to the other person. I don't know. Rarely do you get the honest answers. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:26 15
      - it's not even sugarcoating. I think a lot of the time they just honestly don't know. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 22:32 8
        
        I think this aplies to her -- nm - eag Apr 14, 22:36 7
        
        two weeks ago I asked my college ex why he ran. he still doesn't know. - loosilu Apr 14, 22:37 6
        
        I will lie if it's a bad reason. Make up something more sincere. -- nm - Bacon Apr 14, 22:40 5
        
        yeah, I'm sure there are reasons I'd be happier not to ever hear. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 22:41 4
        
        The only time I give real reasons is if they get mad at me for dumping them. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:43 3
        
        that's a bad reason? damn you're a nice guy. - loosilu Apr 14, 22:44 2
        
        A controlling woman is what I hate the most. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:47 1
        
        "you're a controlling bitch". that's what you would say if you weren't a nice guy. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 22:49
      - I just never had an almost relationship before - eag Apr 14, 22:30 5
        
        I have had many. Remember that heartbreak I had over a whole summer with Waterskiing Trip woman? That was horrible. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:32 2
        
        shit, I still have to talk myself down from contacting crazy art teacher. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 22:33 1
        
        or buying masticationstation.com ...... ;-) -- nm - Beryllium Apr 14, 23:29
        
        well now you have. chalk it up to experience and move on -- nm - moles Apr 14, 22:31
        
        honey, I have had more than I can count. - loosilu Apr 14, 22:31
    - it doesn't matter. it really, really doesn't. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 22:21 4
      - And if it were you - eag Apr 14, 22:25 2
        
        the why will drive you crazy. sometimes it isn't even there. at least not in a reasonable way. -- nm - mafic Apr 14, 23:01
        
        I have learned not to ask. it only makes things worse. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 22:30
      - Im just explaining to Bacon about it -- nm - eag Apr 14, 22:23
  - this is good advice. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 22:19
  - That said. Definitely don't pursue, ask questions about when, where, why? Don't chase, send flowers, cards emails. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:18 9
    - I dont have a car and we dont have common friends -- nm - eag Apr 14, 22:22 8
      - not the point. -- nm - loosilu Apr 14, 22:23 7
        
        Like I said - eag Apr 14, 22:27 6
        
        Everyone is just giving you their honest advice. You will either choose to take it or not. I do know this. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:30 5
        
        Thats why im not repeating what I did last week. -- nm - eag Apr 14, 22:33 4
        
        I will say this. Maybe it will make you feel better or it won't. Nothing you do is going to fix it. - Bacon Apr 14, 22:37 3
        
        Kind of disagree - eag Apr 14, 22:44 2
        
        I have to say Bacon is right. "being supportive" will drive her away. - loosilu Apr 14, 22:51 1
        
        Your not getting what I mean - eag Apr 14, 22:55

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