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friday hax chat q: her BF is very flirty with other women, to the point of making out with one and having sex with another. where to draw the line?

Posted by moles (aka chris) Apr 22 '11, 10:51

EMOTIONAL CHEATING

Hi CH, Relationship: 5 years with live-in BF. Love everything about him except: he is flirtatious (which is okay) but sometimes takes it too far (not okay) - i.e. it turns to innuindos, suggestive remarks, sex chat, making out w one, and another time met the girl (friend from the past) and had sex. Over-analysing it, I think he does it for the challenge/thrill and to see how far a girl will go with his comments. When I found out (pc was on, emails and chat windows open), I got angry and said "no more" or we're done! Did some counseling, worked on communications, etc. Then I saw (not such an accidental viewing) that he is back to chatting with the affair girl. Question: Is it fair to ask him NOT to communicate with these girls that he's had emotional/physical contact with during our relationship? Or is that part of the challenge - i.e. he'll just find a different way to communicate with them? Do I just let him "outgrow" it or turn away ? I know I too am in the wrong by looking at his messages/mail but at this point I'm feeling like what I don't know CAN hurt me.... Psych Major from UVA

Responses:

Where can I find this girl? -- nm - Nigerian Prince Apr 22, 11:49
The "no more or we're done" should just be "we're done". -- nm - CrankYanker Apr 22, 11:35
The fakes are getting easier to spot. -- nm - David Apr 22, 11:10 2
- it does sound fake. -- nm - loosilu Apr 22, 11:11
- It's like she isn't even trying, anymore. -- nm - Spawn Apr 22, 11:11
I wish I knew stupid girls like this -- nm - dogbert Apr 22, 11:06
(What happened to that missing girl with the highly suspicious brother?) nm - Dignan Apr 22, 11:01 5
- (at first i thought this was a previous hax chat q) last i heard the police had conclusively ruled out the brother and the BF - moles Apr 22, 11:04 4
  - is there a link? where is my link? -- nm - amanda jones Apr 22, 11:10 1
    - here -- (link) - moles Apr 22, 11:16
  - Oh, I'm reasonably certain that he hasn't been ruled out. nm - Dignan Apr 22, 11:07
  - I'm looking too. they're resuming the search today. -- nm - loosilu Apr 22, 11:05
~ I was just really really flirting (it wasn't me)... ~ -- nm - Shaggy si Apr 22, 10:59
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- with carolyn's response - moles Apr 22, 11:01 7
  - That might be the bluntest I've ever seen her respond. - Will Hunting Apr 22, 11:02
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    - whatever! like a NO DISTRO email from me didn't help? after that whole "taking their side" thing and now this, you and I are NFA. - amanda jones Apr 22, 11:04 4
      - Did you send an LYC mail behind my back!?!?!?!? It's on like Donkey Kong. - Amy Apr 22, 11:18 1
        
        Welcome to slickertalk, dumbass. -- nm - Max Apr 22, 12:19
      - Oh, the f stands for "friends" -- nm - Roger More Apr 22, 11:08
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also known as "Actual Cheating" -- nm - Reagen Apr 22, 10:57 1
- the Emotional Cheating header threw me for a loop. - moles Apr 22, 10:58
I'm going to bet she's one of those psych majors who's studying the field to learn what's effed up in their own head. - Will Hunting Apr 22, 10:57 14
- "Also my babysitter was mean and wouldn't let me stay up late to the point that she molested me every time she came over." -- nm - Ender Apr 22, 11:02
- You know who else is supposedly a psych major? -- nm - kelly Apr 22, 11:02 11
  - Shawn Spencer! -- nm - David Apr 22, 11:16
  - Oh, that's right. I'd forgotten that. -- nm - Reagen Apr 22, 11:04 1
    - master's degree, even. -- nm - loosilu Apr 22, 11:05
  - Heh -- nm - Roger More Apr 22, 11:04
  - Madonna? -- nm - nubby Apr 22, 11:03 2
    - Close. -- nm - Reagen Apr 22, 11:04 1
      - *laughing* - Will Hunting Apr 22, 11:05
  - Please tell me your junior bridesmaid....that'd give me so much comedy to get thru the afternoon. -- nm - Will Hunting Apr 22, 11:03 2
    - ...who? -- nm - kelly Apr 22, 11:06 1
      - I was wrong; I get it now. -- nm - Will Hunting Apr 22, 11:06
  - Hitler? -- nm - mara Apr 22, 11:03
- let's help her out: Terminally stupid. -- nm - loosilu Apr 22, 10:57
offs. -- nm - Diva Apr 22, 10:55 1
- *precisely* -- nm - amanda jones Apr 22, 10:56
This is hilarious. -- nm - TFox Apr 22, 10:54 2
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  - my thought process: that's a funny subject line, clearly pixie is embellishing slight.... nope. no he wasn't. -- nm - TFox Apr 22, 10:57
Get out now. A cheating BF is a cheating husband. -- nm - TWuG Apr 22, 10:53
"Question: Is it fair...?" Answer: Yes. Also, it's fair to dump his sorry ass. -- nm - nubby Apr 22, 10:53
that's flirting? -- nm - loosilu Apr 22, 10:52 5
- *wink wink* *penetrate* nm - Dignan Apr 22, 10:54 2
  - now *this* is dignan. -- nm - loosilu Apr 22, 10:54 1
    - you can tell by the length, right? -- nm - moles Apr 22, 10:55
- my fave thing is the signature: "Psych Major, UVA" -- nm - moles Apr 22, 10:52 1
  - it explains a lot. -- nm - loosilu Apr 22, 10:52

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