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In response to "human relations tend not to be that simple. -- nm" by Andie

this one sounds clear cut to me. Bride told BM up front that she has veto power. Bride is paying for it.

Posted by loosilu (aka loosilu2) May 2 '11, 13:06

plus, it's the bride's wedding.

If the bridesmaid is being pushy, that doesn't speak well of their relationship.

And bride needs a spine.

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sure sure sure, i agree with all that. but, if you actually value your friendships, it's not so easy to say in real life. - Andie May 2, 13:07 9
- yeah, that seems extreme. I'm not saying end the friendship, just get a spine. -- nm - loosilu May 2, 13:09
- obviously the bridesmaid doesn't value the friendship that much. so maybe the bride needs to evaluate this. - sycor May 2, 13:09 5
  - and if telling the girl she cannot wear white causes her to end the friendship, well she wasn't really a friend. - sycor May 2, 13:11 2
    - you are missing my point. i don't disagree with the concept, i'm saying 'cutting off a friend in real life isn't a little thing' -- nm - Andie May 2, 13:15 1
      - I know. I've done it before. But sometimes it's the best thing to do. but I get what you are saying. - sycor May 2, 13:18
  - she's her only bridesmaid. this isn't 'barely a friend'. they've probably known each other forever. -- nm - Andie May 2, 13:10 1
    - and for the record, I'm not saying the bride should end the friendship. but if telling the girl one or the other ends it, well, see what I said above. -- nm - sycor May 2, 13:12
- (like, loosi, how easy is it for you to tell your mother 'no, i don't want to do X?' and just not do it? - Andie May 2, 13:08 1
  - totally agreed. (I didn't say end the friendship!) -- nm - loosilu May 2, 13:11

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