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early hax chat q: do women have "expiration dates" past 30 for finding relationships as they get older?
Posted by
lord tubbington (aka chris)
May 5 '11, 11:31
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WOMEN GROWING OLDER
One of the things I find difficult is trying to be an intelligent, educated, therapized, mentally and emotionally healthy, content with singlehood, etc. woman in her thirties is... I feel like I'm not supposed to be afraid of having an "expiration date" when men are no longer interested in me, when I'm considered "undate-able". But I really, really do have that fear, I just don't like to admit to it. I know more than one woman who was abruptly shocked by becoming completely invisible to men at forty, or at fifty. I wish it weren't real, but ignoring it solves nothing. I'm not sure how afraid I am of being alone; it's more like I feel incredibly angry that this happens to women at all. I'm already sort of mentally preparing myself for it to happen. The worst is that, as I've struggled with a weight problem for most of my life, I've known what it's like to phase from visible to invisible and then back again as my weight fluctuates within and without some strange permissible attractiveness range. I know what it feels like when the curtain drops, and I'm dreading the day it drops forever. I could use some dissenting voices and/or encouragement.
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Responses:
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This is "Waaahhh!" to the Nth degree. Work or being as attractive as you can to yourself and others, and the rest will fall in line.
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Inigo
May 5, 11:52
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Describing yourself as "therapized" will do a lot more to drive men away than getting old will. -- nm
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Ender
May 5, 11:51
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i don't think you ever become undateable or invisible. 40 yo women might be invisible to 25 yo men, but who cares?
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Andie
May 5, 11:41
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yep, she's a lunatic, that's why she's single. holy hell -- nm
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CQ
May 5, 11:40
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No one is going to tell you all that stuff isn't true. You need an attitude adjustment. -- nm
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con_carne
May 5, 11:37
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Is there a question in there? -- nm
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Dr.Vermin
May 5, 11:37
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You know why chicks who are 26 are hot? *because they dwell on this*
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Max
May 5, 11:36
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Oh FFS. No. I don't know how many women I know who (re)married in their fifties. -- nm
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Amy
May 5, 11:33
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Depends....what age do the boobs go from perky to saggy? -- nm
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Will Hunting
May 5, 11:33
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What makes her think this is limited to women? -- nm
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ty97
May 5, 11:32
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