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yowsa - I just got an e-mail from a friend who found out her bf was cheating on her with a woman she thought was her friend. She's very upset...

Posted by Diva (aka Diva) Jan 4 '09, 19:41

And she has told the other woman's husband *EVERYTHING*.

And now she wants advice from me. (?!?!!)

Responses:

on the bright side, the rest of the year has to get better from here -- nm - pigby Jan 4, 20:10 4
- well, you know. unless there's property and debt and bankruptcy as a result of what's happening. -- nm - 2009 loves mandy lane Jan 4, 20:11 3
  - My friend is not the one that's married and since she hasn't slept w/anyone's spouse she can't be named in a suit. -- nm - Diva Jan 4, 20:14 2
    - I don't mean to misstep. I'm sure your friend will be fine. so sorry. - 2009 loves mandy lane Jan 4, 20:30 1
      - Understood. My friend has been seeing this guy for about 6 months. There is no community property to be divided, she's just heartbroken. -- nm - Diva Jan 5, 05:27
get proof for divorce preceedings? -- nm - 2009 loves mandy lane Jan 4, 19:47 3
- doesn't sound like friend is married? -- nm - loosilu Jan 4, 19:51
- yep. -- nm - Remlik Jan 4, 19:50
- proceedings. sorry. -- nm - 2009 loves mandy lane Jan 4, 19:47
I'm with loosi. Is there a decision to make she's unsure about? If so, what exactly is it? -- nm - mara Jan 4, 19:46
advice? about what? -- nm - loosilu Jan 4, 19:46 11
- Moving on mostly, containing her anger, trying to feel better about stuff... -- nm - Diva Jan 4, 19:48 10
  - FWIW, I think the best way to move on is to visualize in some detail the way you want your life to be, and then spend time every day thinking of ways - mara Jan 4, 19:50 1
    - I like this. -- nm - loosilu Jan 4, 19:50
  - I would say redirect it rather than contain it. and whatever you do, don't go back and ask for explanations, "closure", - loosilu Jan 4, 19:49 6
    - Word. - kelly Jan 4, 20:01
    - Yup, this is a time for detachment. -- nm - mara Jan 4, 19:50 4
      - whatever it is you think you need from the other person, they can't give it to you. -- nm - loosilu Jan 4, 19:51 3
        
        You are so HOT when you give out advice. -- nm - Redmond Jan 4, 20:11 2
        
        If only I lived next door to you! -- nm - loosilu Jan 4, 20:14 1
        
        If only... -- nm - Redmond Jan 4, 20:24
  - Best advice you could possibly give her. "Go on a date with Redmond" -- nm - Redmond Jan 4, 19:49
get ready for a lot of nights in -- nm - pigby Jan 4, 19:45
"facebook status: it's complicated" -- nm - prayformojo Jan 4, 19:44 1
- bwah -- nm - nubby Jan 4, 19:46
Dump them both. The bf and the friend. -- nm - lileve Jan 4, 19:42 4
- She's already done that. -- nm - Diva Jan 4, 19:44 3
  - Be a good listener, let her vent, but advise her now that's she out just to move on. -- nm - Cuzzin Todd Jan 4, 20:02
  - Then just let her get it all out of her. Get her to talk it out, cry it out, etc. Also get it distracted, like going out to eat, walk on the beach,etc -- nm - lileve Jan 4, 19:50
  - then get far away from them both. the end. -- nm - loosilu Jan 4, 19:46

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