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In response to
"I would say redirect it rather than contain it. and whatever you do, don't go back and ask for explanations, "closure", "
by
loosilu
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Word.
Posted by
kelly (aka kelly)
Jan 4 '09, 20:01
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I was in this exact same situation about, oh, 5 or 6 years ago - found out my boyfriend was involved with a friend (his friend, who I had hung out with as well over the years, so a little different there) - he swears they were not sleeping together, but he was in love with her - not sure I believed him but it didn't matter, and still doesn't. The only difference here is that I did not tell her husband, I believe he found out on his own when she left him.
I tried the rationalization, explanations, looking for closure. Did more harm than good. I wish I hadn't done that, and just left him behind the day I confronted him and he 'fessed up.
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