Salon.com's Since You Asked: A Fellow Attorney Thinks I'm Crazy.
Posted by
loosilu (aka loosilu2)
Jun 6 '11, 07:27
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Dear Cary:
I have been following your column for years. I hope you can help me -- I need concrete advice, almost like a to-do list on what to do next. I have ruined a wonderful friendship, and I want to repair it.
I am an attorney. My workspace, and all others who are similarly situated, is a cubicle, so there is no privacy. I really like one of my co-workers. He is close friends with our boss and is one of the most respected attorneys here. I wanted to have a physical relationship with him. He said that he found me attractive but did not want a physical relationship for a number of reasons. He repeatedly said that women are crazy. He has absolutely no patience for "out of control." We managed to develop a fairly close friendship. I started to get too deep. Yesterday I left him a voicemail message saying that I needed to dial back, that he would meet the woman he has been looking for, maybe even this weekend, and that I didn't want to be in a position of missing my friend when he started spending all his time with that woman, so I was dialing back. He got upset. He said that we were never dating, that the message was the type of message one would get from a girlfriend. I thought I was being honest and self-protective. But instead I revealed myself as being in too deep and like another one of the crazy women in his life (his term, crazy women). I called him on the telephone as we drove to our homes. He said that it was a crazy message. My voice rose. I asked how it was crazy. He said, "Well, you're the one who left it." I truly value our friendship. I feel as though I have lost all dignity and revealed my worst (to him), most emotional side. I need concrete and specific advice on what to do. How do I repair the friendship?
Please do not reveal my name.
Emotional Attorney
loosi's answer: Your fellow attorney is onto something.
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