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In response to "I think that it's probably healthier to get that validation mostly from your spouse. It's not that it happens, it's that" by Amy

I see what you are saying, but it is also a matter of perspective.

Posted by groiny (aka groiny) Jun 9 '11, 07:36

She obviously has some insecurity issues, and those issues would get amplified by this, causing her to see things that are not really there.

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Where are you getting insecurity from? I didn't see that at all. -- nm - kelly Jun 9, 07:41 10
- me neither. If she's unsure, I'd say he gave her good reason to be. -- nm - loosilu Jun 9, 07:47
- sticks out like a sore thumb to me. nm -- nm - groiny Jun 9, 07:44 8
  - So quote the passages that make it stick out like a sore thumb. If it's that blatent, it shouldn't be too hard. -- nm - mara Jun 9, 07:45 7
    - here - groiny Jun 9, 07:47 6
      - you think the other woman moved on? - loosilu Jun 9, 07:48 5
        
        after 20 years, I would hope so. nm -- nm - groiny Jun 9, 07:48 4
        
        not if he's been throwing her crumbs all this time. -- nm - loosilu Jun 9, 07:49 3
        
        I can see why you would say that. - groiny Jun 9, 07:50 2
        
        here's the thing. - loosilu Jun 9, 07:51 1
        
        we all do stuipd shit sometimes. nm -- nm - groiny Jun 9, 07:52
After 20 years of marriage? I think she has her shit tight. He needs to focus on the marriage, or admit he's not happy and get out. -- nm - Amy Jun 9, 07:39 7
- I can see her having an esteem issue...20yrs or so puts them likely in the 45yo range...a little restlessness - Will Hunting Jun 9, 07:40 6
  - I am just saying that it is entirely possible that it looks worse than it is, from her eyes. - groiny Jun 9, 07:42 5
    - I see your point Groiny - but this is your nature - your personality - Epiphany Jun 9, 07:52 2
      - it would be better if it were 10 women? nm -- nm - groiny Jun 9, 07:54 1
        
        in a way yes - make it less odd. gut feelings are not always right - but this seems strange to her - Epiphany Jun 9, 07:58
    - Very possible, it is worse....but he's putting himself into the "Smoke then Fire" zone here being relatively dumb. - Will Hunting Jun 9, 07:44 1
      - I knew you were an all right guy... -- nm - kelly Jun 9, 07:53

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