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This is timely: Recall last year and Mother and Brother had a blow-up, partly over Facebook but really over relational boundaries?

Posted by ty97 Jun 30 '11, 08:05

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Well, it's started again. Brother called father the night to ask for help in talking to mother about boundaries, about over-involvement on facebook, about critiquing every small decision in life, etc.

Dad spoke to Mom. Mom de-friended brother. Mom cried for a day. Mom feels very deeply hurt by brother over these two instances (last year and this year)

Mother and brother both feel like shit. Haven't really talked much yet. Nothing is resolved (will it ever be? I'm worried)

I hate this.

Responses:

This is why they both need Google+. She can be in the Family Circle and the stuff he shares with Friends, she won't be able to see. Woo hoO! -- nm - Jim Jun 30, 08:42
time heals all wounds. they will get over it. - Andie Jun 30, 08:08 2
- The wounds concern me some, but I'm much more concerned about the root cause that has not been fixed. - ty97 Jun 30, 08:09 1
  - he needs to stand his ground. -- nm - loosilu Jun 30, 08:29
heh. It's awesome she defriended him -- nm - decline Jun 30, 08:06 8
- happened last year too. - ty97 Jun 30, 08:09 7
  - When/if they refriend he seriously needs to restrict her access. - Ender Jun 30, 08:12 6
    - She'll know. He's friends with aunts/cousins. Moreover, she's friends with a lot of *his* friends. - ty97 Jun 30, 08:15 5
      - she knows now that he needs boundaries, so, if he tells her straight up that this is what he needs it can't be worse than it is right now. -- nm - Andie Jun 30, 08:41
      - My family has a ban on intergenerational FB friendships for exactly this reason -- nm - Roger More Jun 30, 08:18 3
        
        I wish, I wish. My mother told me not to get offended if you defriended me next - ty97 Jun 30, 08:22 2
        
        heh. You've got a helicopter mom -- nm - decline Jun 30, 08:43
        
        "ty97 has checked into Chicago South Side Police Station" -- nm - Roger More Jun 30, 08:26

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