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In response to
"Without actually being involved, just going by what you've shared..."
by
Jim
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hmm
Posted by
tRuMaN (aka Truman)
Jan 9 '09, 07:55
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most of the monkey stuff I have is from tters, I dont go out and buy it myself.
honestly, since we started her business back in 07, a lot of local "leaders" for religious groups, self help groups, other "healing" groups have been trying to court her into their group. I think she partially lost her identity in all of it (moving, graduating, starting your own business, become such a focal point, etc) and when she started to find herself again, she made the concious decision that she didnt need the "baggage" from her life.
since I was unwilling to go to may of this things, mainly because I would rather have my eyes gouged out by hot spoon then listen to people try to convert me to their ways of thinking, she decided I was unwilling to grow as a person, or something, and at that point, I was no longer part of her life.
it was easier for her to blame me for everything (I do admit, that sometimes I have a temper, not that I do anything more than get upset and curse more, but still, its there) and use whatever justification she can get from that to end it.
she is happy with her new life, cause she feels she made it for herself, which is strange cause she would have never gotten to this place without me (supporting her emtionally, financially, and everything else).
life I said before, we started having problems communicating last spring, its just that neither of us seemed to listen to the other, and no matter how hard I tried, it was never enough. she wanted me to change overnight, and that cannot happen with me, my brain is too convuluted for that to happen.
oh well, it is for the best really. the only way for me to save the marriage would have for me to become her man-slave really. I would have had to have no opinoins, no desires, but hers, and always been willing to sacrifice my time for her, and dreams for her, etc.
I just have to make sure that I do not get angry about the whole thing, and that I at least learn from this.
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