labor day hax chat q. special: she's ready to have an extramarital affair because "why not?"
Posted by
moles (aka chris)
Sep 5 '11, 14:28
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Dear Carolyn:
Can you give me your opinion on why I should or should not have an affair?
I�m in a very blah marriage and have stuck it out because we have kids. I�ve determined after a lot of counseling that our personalities are just not great together and have led to a roommate situation instead of a partnership. After years of no sex, no deep conversations, etc., I�ve just about given up.
I�ve been asking for a separation for about a year now but my spouse �isn�t ready� and I haven�t acted because of the kids. Recently I met someone who�s easy to talk with, has similar interests, and there is a romantic spark (nothing�s happened). It would never be a long-term thing, but I�m so starved for affection I�m just aching for some attention.
I have always felt that cheating is wrong, but I find myself in a position where I keep thinking, �Why not?� I could imagine it being difficult to explain to my kids, if it ever came to that, but otherwise would it really be so bad to mess up my lousy marriage more? Other than being an ethical hypocrite, why would it be wrong?
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