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This is a very honest question because I am being told I am being weird or abnormal in my reaction.

Posted by Capstern Sep 8 '11, 08:05

Wife still hasnt moved out but its being worked on. In the last 3 weeks I just started closing my bedroom door to talk on the phone, change clothes or when I am going to take a shower or whatever.

Shes mad. Says things like "its not like we didnt spend 7 years together"

For me, I just now feel its inappropriate. Its my private space and I have no interest in having her in it. I do not think that its strange that I feel this way, but a few of my friends think I am being odd or even mean. So I am honestly curious in this situation, am I being odd or weird wanting that boundary and demarkation?

Responses:

You shouldn't need the internet to tell you that you aren't obligated to show your balls to people. -- nm - TFox Sep 8, 08:17 4
- I know I dont think like most people a lot. So when some friend say I am being odd, I thought best to check with the last bastion of common sen....oh - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 08:40
- This one is going in the notebook for my "TFox Book of Common Sense Shit" book -- nm - oblique Sep 8, 08:20 2
  - I'd love to get a copy of this. Sounds like a good gift to give stupid people. -- nm - sycor Sep 8, 08:25
  - I'm thinking page-a-day calendar. -- nm - Reagen Sep 8, 08:25
she's living in your house rent-free. your house, your rules. tell her to STFU. -- nm - HPV McGee Sep 8, 08:15 1
- word to th mother -- nm - i'm not dead yet ! Sep 8, 08:19
I think you're reacting normally. Very few people can be amicable with their AO during a breakup and living in the same house makes it even harder. -- nm - CrankYanker Sep 8, 08:12 1
- that should have been SO, but I'm sure you could think of it a "short for asshole". ;-) -- nm - CrankYanker Sep 8, 08:13
This is getting TMI for ST, but whatev. A better question is why she still needs things like this from you. -- nm - con_carne Sep 8, 08:09 1
- Shes terrified to be on her own -- nm - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 08:38
I just saw from b2, she bought a hamster for her swinging friends' son, but the hamster is living in your house? - loosilu Sep 8, 08:09 6
- I was pissed. I do not like rodents (not fear just yuck). I never let her get one while married and I was angry. She was like, "well its Jakes but - Capstern Sep 8, 08:27 2
  - okay. stop. - znufrii, Q-Lister Sep 8, 08:30 1
    - joint ... account? *sigh* -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 08:32
- seriously! You don't know where that hamsters been! -- nm - oblique Sep 8, 08:12 2
  - more like where it will end up.... - Beaker Sep 8, 08:13 1
    - shuddder -- nm - Capstern Sep 8, 08:29
Not at all. Next time she's showering, just walk in on her, peak your head around the curtain and ask her a question. - Jim Sep 8, 08:09 1
- She um tried to be friendly about 5 days ago or whatever and I just have no feeling or attraction at all. It is like it just stopped -- nm - Capstern Sep 8, 08:22
Seems appropriate to me. At this point boundaries are important. -- nm - pmb Sep 8, 08:09
I am trying to stay out of your insanity but, OFFS. - The Ruiner Sep 8, 08:08 11
- She is looking for a place. I am not willing to push her into the wild in an asshoeish way. - Capstern Sep 8, 08:16 10
  - Being softhearted beyond a certain point is more like soft backboned, though. -- nm - The Ruiner Sep 8, 08:21 2
    - Well I set 30 days from the paper filing as reasonable time for someone to find a place. She has 2 more weeks -- nm - Capstern Sep 8, 08:25 1
      - it's reasonable, you just have to stick to it. -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 08:30
  - I thought she had a place? -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 08:17 6
    - She did. Then found out Michele is splitting up and keeping the house. Its a much better deal for her. Living with a friend and cheaper. - Capstern Sep 8, 08:24
    - Yeah...but you can't always move in the next day. Without knowing the situation, it wouldn't surprise me to see a move-in date of Oct 1. - Jim Sep 8, 08:19 2
      - but you need to have some rules. "No buying pets for your swinging lovers and keeping them at the house." -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 08:20 1
        
        My bad, I sorta figured that was implied. grrrrrr -- nm - Capstern Sep 8, 08:28
    - Regardless, you are splitting up. If she is living there, you MUST put up more boundaries than you had before. -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 08:17 1
      - I thought I had... - Capstern Sep 8, 08:34
sounds normal to me. -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 08:08
Perfectly normal, IMO. No need for her to be in your business now (phone or otherwise) -- nm - oblique Sep 8, 08:07
I think it's totally reasonable. -- nm - znufrii Sep 8, 08:06 1
- this -- nm - Beaker Sep 8, 08:08

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This is a very honest question because I am being told I am being weird or abnormal in my reaction.

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