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In response to "Thanks for the car advice. Sorry got drug away into meetings. I am going to guess the best option for now is:" by Capstern (46 Days)

so you're paying for part of her rent but not her healthcare? that's silly. she can't get coverage through her employer, can she?

Posted by HPV McGee (aka amanda) Sep 8 '11, 10:45

I would actually have written into the divorce that I cover her healthcare for a year or 18 months so you can do so legally. you're all "I'm a nice guy, I'm giving her money." healthcare is nicer. treatment for chlamydia isn't inexpensive.

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I am in the end giving her nothing. She will be paying me for the car. Clean split other than that. - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 10:52 2
- you can if it's written into the divorce as a stipulation. can't you? -- nm - HPV McGee Sep 8, 10:53 1
  - Not according to HR, i can only carry her if she lives with me and is my domestic partner or wife. I am ok this means I can - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 10:57
that last line could be taken wrong -- sorry. "she's living a very high-risk lifestyle." -- nm - HPV McGee Sep 8, 10:46
she's a nanny. -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 10:46 18
- right. so how can she get coverage through a private couple? can she? if they can afford to cover her - HPV McGee Sep 8, 10:46 17
  - They under pay her a little IMO for what she does. Got tired of telling her to look for something better - its her problem. They are fairly strapped - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 10:54
  - don't know about that, but it's pretty common for employers to give the nanny a car. - loosilu Sep 8, 10:51 15
    - Most of the time they just let the nanny use one of their cars during the work hours -- nm - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 10:54 14
      - so, she really doesn't need anything more than a used corolla. -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 10:55 13
        
        No. But I cant dump either car ATM. I dont need the big one and I would rather get the big car payment from her than the small -- nm - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 10:58 12
        
        so you're *not* being nice. -- nm - HPV McGee Sep 8, 11:00 9
        
        also I am nice not a doormat -- nm - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 11:06
        
        Shes been pissing me off and my nice factor drops the longer this goes on. - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 11:04 2
        
        Good grief. -- nm - mara Sep 8, 11:06 1
        
        What? I have bent over backwards to make this easy for her but she insists on driving me nuts and being kind of a B at times. - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 11:12
        
        i'm totally confused, because a few weeks ago cappie was telling us she's fairly well paid AND that she was expected to have a really nice car to - Andie Sep 8, 11:04 4
        
        Fo TX 500 a week is good. Not great she was making 20 an hour in seattle. - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 11:09 2
        
        that's more money per year, actually. -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 11:10 1
        
        She easily got 10 hrs of OT a week in seattle (wasnt salaried like here) -- nm - Capstern (46 Days) Sep 8, 11:14
        
        *that* was the persona, obvs. (my boots, andrea. my boots.) -- nm - HPV McGee Sep 8, 11:07
        
        just being a realist here ... *I* can't afford that car payment. -- nm - loosilu Sep 8, 11:00 1
        
        a point. me neither. I make more than $500 per week and my rent is just over hers per month. I have student loans, she'll have credit cards. -- nm - HPV McGee Sep 8, 11:01

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so you're paying for part of her rent but not her healthcare? that's silly. she can't get coverage through her employer, can she?

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