For those who care - dad update (arrggh)
Posted by
kelly (aka kelly)
Sep 9 '11, 16:33
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My mom just called - apparently he's talking to her for today - she said the pet scan was inconclusive, so they are going to have to do a biopsy. He goes in for an MRI next week, and a biopsy in 2 weeks. After that we will know more, but assuming it's cancer (which seems to be what the doctor is leaning towards, based on what he's seen) surgery, chemo and radiation will follow.
So, not really surprising. But then I kinda got into it with my mom a little re: his drug, alcohol and depression problem.
her: "He is afraid of dying. He is afraid he won't be here when his grandson is born."
me: "Well, the drinking and drugs certainly isn't helping him be any healthier. I'm not sure why getting his shit together isn't part of his plan."
her: "He's having a hard time. He has a lot of issues. He had half of his tongue removed!"
Yes, perhaps I am being insensitive, but ya know, the issues this man has have been brought on mainly by himself. He didn't ask for the first bout of cancer (I mean, he smoked so in that case he knew it couldn't be good, but it has been indicated that the amount of radiation he was exposed to at job sites may have played a big part in that). So, there's that. But - I can't wrap my head around 'I had cancer but got lucky relatively speaking and now it's gone, so I'm going to take horrible care of myself and push everyone around me away while hoping I don't die.'. Dude! Now it looks like he'll have his 2nd bout of cancer in less than a year, and is continuing to piss his days away. I just don't get it.
My brother and I truly believe he is putting himself into the grave day by day.
Sorry if this is rambly and doesn't make any sense.
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