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In response to "Any tips for stopping a 14-month-old from biting? :-/ -- nm" by Beryllium (iPhone)

do you know why he's doing it? is he frustrated or not getting attention or...?

Posted by b. (aka starrynit) Sep 9 '11, 18:43

it's been a while since the next gen. kids were young enough to be biters, but my recollection is that the first line of action was to give a hearty "NO!" and then to put them down or step away from them to get out of biting range. they need to know that biting is associated with badness and sadness, so no laughing or the like.

show that you're upset and/or hurt, so that's associated, too.

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It's all at daycare, and yesterday was the first I heard of it. Today I hear they are going to "isolate" him next week. Hrm. I have doubts about that. -- nm - Beryllium (iPhone) Sep 9, 18:45 11
- "isolate" him as in time-out? because that seems appropriate to me. -- nm - TFox Sep 9, 18:55 9
  - Sounded more like quarantine. Time-out definitely is appropriate for biting another kid. - Beryllium Sep 9, 19:02 8
    - unfortunately, from what i'm reading from quick googles, it seems like isolating is actually recommended to deal with biting in daycare. - TFox Sep 9, 19:06 4
      - *ding* "He/she may just be overtired" - every night this week he's slept from 7PM to 5AM. That's fucking unheard of. -- nm - Beryllium Sep 9, 19:09 1
        
        (hah, I just realized that a non-parent would have no idea what this meant.) - Beryllium Sep 9, 19:11
      - separating is different than actual isolation, though. -- nm - b. Sep 9, 19:08 1
        
        Indeed, and they recommend at that link having the biter help in the treatment process ... that would be useless for baby k, he wouldn't understand .. -- nm - Beryllium Sep 9, 19:09
    - IANAP, but do they understsand timeout at 14 months? -- nm - loosilu Sep 9, 19:06
    - does a 14-month old understand isolation, though? some kind of time-out, like a "time-out" chair or another nanny thing is one thing..but there's no - b. Sep 9, 19:05 1
      - from what i'm reading, the isolation is less about teaching the biter, and more about protecting the other kids. - TFox Sep 9, 19:08
- me, too. :/ that's pretty brutish to me, vs. dealing with why and actively working on changing the behavior. -- nm - b. Sep 9, 18:52

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