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In response to "triple bonus hax chat q: she's thinking about buying a house with her (no-credit score) live-in boyfriend. should he pay half or what?" by poxie

if you love him, it shouldn't matter if he can pay half. there's never perfect parity in money in relationships..

Posted by slutty vampire ghost pirate nurse amanda jones (aka amanda) Oct 14 '11, 12:05

this said, if she does buy, she needs to make sure he has a lease and that he gets renter's insurance.

my mom's boyfriend was 100% not covered for his losses because his name wasn't on the deed and stuff.

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non-perfect parity is one thing, but the guy has no savings and no credit score. those are big red flags to me for most grown-ups. - b. Oct 14, 12:13 3
- maybe he works for a nonprofit and gets paid peanuts to save the world. I don't know. - slutty vampire ghost pirate nurse amanda jones Oct 14, 12:16 2
  - so much depends on the individual situation, it is hard to say for sure without info. I just know that, for me, - b. Oct 14, 12:24 1
    - *pulls up in front of b.'s place with a u-haul* - poxie Oct 14, 12:25
y'know, this is why i'm not totally sure i dig jeff's insurance agent. he was all, oh yeah, her stuff will be covered under your homeowner's, no - kare Oct 14, 12:09 4
- if you're married, you're covered. if no, SOL. -- nm - slutty vampire ghost pirate nurse amanda jones Oct 14, 12:11 1
  - that's what i thought at the time (i actually used to be an insurance agent. it was horrible, but i digress). i think i need to check our policies, - kare Oct 14, 12:14
- talk to jenbro - poxie Oct 14, 12:11 1
  - this was pre-marriage. i'm good now. -- nm - kare Oct 14, 12:12
*ding* -- nm - Epiphany Oct 14, 12:07
it sounds like she already resents his lack of werewithal though -- nm - poxie Oct 14, 12:06 9
- yeah I mean, it's clear she doesn't want to do this with him. "if you love him..." -- nm - slutty vampire ghost pirate nurse amanda jones Oct 14, 12:07 8
  - if you love him and his credit sucks, you still shouldn't get a mortgage with him. -- nm - slutty werewolf demon cheerleader loosilu Oct 14, 12:12 7
    - I don't think she'd feel resentful if she loved him. -- nm - slutty vampire ghost pirate nurse amanda jones Oct 14, 12:13 6
      - she's resentful because she's comparing herself to other people, and she needs to get over it. It's not the boyfriend's faul.t -- nm - slutty werewolf demon cheerleader loosilu Oct 14, 12:14 5
        
        right. her resentment is more about how her life has panned out, compared to her friends. ugh, i can't stand people like that -- nm - kare Oct 14, 12:15 3
        
        and the kind of dude she got, compared to her friends. (nmb non sequitur) - slutty vampire ghost pirate nurse amanda jones Oct 14, 12:20 2
        
        i was *so* disappointed with an Auntie Anne's last weekend. what the hell happened to them?? - kare Oct 14, 12:21 1
        
        at the mall, we have auntie ann's and some.... other thing. the other thing charges $3 for a totally sub-par twist, but - slutty vampire ghost pirate nurse amanda jones Oct 14, 12:24
        
        and now that I think of it, her letter fairly reeks of "why isn't he taking care of me?" -- nm - slutty werewolf demon cheerleader loosilu Oct 14, 12:15

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if you love him, it shouldn't matter if he can pay half. there's never perfect parity in money in relationships..

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