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Think of this as a poll, but I am very curious as to what advice comes out of this question from the ST peeps:

Posted by Capstern (4 Days) (aka Capstern) Oct 20 '11, 13:27

So to be clear I am going to take your advice and just be single. Have fun go out etc.

BUT

When I do decide to date my friends have given one very clear piece of advice. Do not date younger than 35. They said if I want to (you know I dont but) I can play under 35 but dating should be 35+

To me this seems sort of arbitrary. Now I recognize that after my past experience anyone under 27 is likely not done growing and all that and well I assume there are exceptions but I would expect they are very rare and well my past says dont do that.

But is that 28-34 just as unsafe? Or do you just meet people and go with you fits and meets adult criteria for what you need in a partner.

I am not being an ass here, I reall would be interested to see how everyone looks at this and how they see it

Responses:

my brother wouldn't have met his wife if she had stuck with her "30+" guideline - znufrii Oct 20, 13:42 1
- I think we can all agree 18-24 is probably bad? :) -- nm - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:47
This friend of mine had this weird mathematical rule: - celedhring Oct 20, 13:38 2
- How is that a range? me 40/2 = 20 + 7 = 27...so I am guessing thats the bottom? up to what...whatever? -- nm - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:52
- Yup, that's pretty well-known. And pretty on the money. -- nm - The Devil and Daniel Vermin Oct 20, 13:41
and side note : I think you need new friends. nm -- nm - ghouly berries Oct 20, 13:38 4
- They might be tongue in cheek a little but most are just assuming the average 21-30 year old isnt likely particularly mature compared to a 41 year old - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:45
- Hey, what is wrong with us? -- nm - Bacon Oct 20, 13:38 2
  - have you met us? -- nm - Epiphany Oct 20, 13:45 1
    - *this* -- nm - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:48
why must you have rules for everything? date people that feel like your emotional and maturity level equal. -- nm - Andie Oct 20, 13:34 11
- Its the OCD - i tend to try to project manage my life. I am working on changing that but its hard - I think that say I run into a 27 year old that is - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:40 2
  - here's the thing, it's a very very very very rare 27 year old that is a grown up as a 40 year old. - Andie Oct 20, 13:46 1
    - I honestly really DONT want to date that young again. I mean yes they are pretty and athletic - which is nice. But I have to admit I find - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:51
- He is in the process of: If I just do t hings perfect they will work out next time. - Bacon Oct 20, 13:36 2
  - Isnt this what people call learning from past mistakes? Maybe I am too literal and this was just curiosity about how STers look at age and - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:44 1
    - arbitrary rules of any kind may make sense, but they rarely work. -- nm - znufrii Oct 20, 13:45
- dave is 8 years older than me. but we didn't meet when i was 25, you know? -- nm - Andie Oct 20, 13:35 3
  - See and this leads back to older might be safer -- nm - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:47
  - My parents are 8 years apart too. Dad was my mom's boss when they met. Awkward. -- nm - MDH Oct 20, 13:38 1
    - heh -- nm - Andie Oct 20, 13:38
- stop trying to get him arrested, Andie. -- nm - TFox Oct 20, 13:35
Meh. Okay as a rough guideline, but yes, entirely arbitrary as a specific number. -- nm - The Devil and Daniel Vermin Oct 20, 13:32 2
- you can't grow a beard, but you can have beer! nm -- nm - ghouly berries Oct 20, 13:34 1
  - not sure how this got HERE????? - ghouly berries Oct 20, 13:37
Hard to judge just based on age. Some people are a mature 28 and others aren't. - Krusty Oct 20, 13:32
You know what age range is unsafe? - The Ruiner Oct 20, 13:31 3
- Spawn loves the GILF's -- nm - amoxy Oct 20, 13:35
- Ew. Spawn likes 9-year-olds. -- nm - The Devil and Daniel Vermin Oct 20, 13:33 1
  - *files lawsuit* -- nm - The Ruiner Oct 20, 13:34
I never dated anyone younger than me til I was 26. People can be old souls or immature for their age. no right way to look at it -- nm - Epiphany Oct 20, 13:31 2
- damn you and your logic....so maybe Meagan is an old soul? :) -- nm - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:43 1
  - doubtful - LOL! -- nm - Epiphany Oct 20, 13:50
It's going to be hard meeting women that age when you're trolling 22 yr olds' parties as the creepy old guy, dontchathink? -- nm - TFox Oct 20, 13:30 3
- I agree with this. All my 30 something friends are married and well dont do much and dont have single friends. So honestly - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:42 2
  - You could always befriend the other creepy old people trolling the 22 yr olds' party, right? - TFox Oct 20, 13:46 1
    - well mid 30sish people yes as half the girls are dating 30-35 yos -- nm - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:53
you are being an ass, and there arbitrary numbers are just dumb. - ghouly berries Oct 20, 13:30 3
- See I have always thought that, ok so maybe just I need more vetting before falling in love? :) -- nm - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:40
- oh, and pre-emptive strike, I believe this NOW! - ghouly berries Oct 20, 13:36
- I can agree with this. As Aaliyah said "Age ain't nuthin but a number" -- nm - MDH Oct 20, 13:35
you're on your own with this one. :) -- nm - loosibery Oct 20, 13:28 1
- ~:> Wanna visit Texas ;) -- nm - Capstern (4 Days) Oct 20, 13:37

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