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friday hax chat q: they agreed he woukd move to her city when his temp job ended. but then the company made him a dream offer and he's staying put

Posted by stuffed pixie (aka chris) Nov 4 '11, 09:58

Time to walk away?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for going on four years, almost two of which were varying degrees of long distance. For the past year, we'd had an agreement that he would move to my city when his temporary contract with his dream company was up. Contract ran out, he got an OK job offer in my town, was offered the dream job by the company he was with and took the dream job. I don't know what to do: stay with him, because we love each other and want to have a future, but knowing that we have to do another year of distance and then I have to move? Or realize that he's made a choice about what matters to him, and walk away? Possibly relevant information: We're 24-25, so still getting started in our careers, and knew this was a possibility, albeit not the one I'd prefer.

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If she has a good job and/or strong ties to her current city, this is a tough one. - ty97 Nov 4, 10:05 5
- he moved for her. it's her turn. -- nm - amanda Nov 4, 10:11 4
  - He agreed to move but then got the dream offer and never did move, I think. - ty97 Nov 4, 10:14 1
    - oh right. sorry. -- nm - amanda Nov 4, 10:21
  - Did he? -- nm - mara Nov 4, 10:14 1
    - sounds like he didn't, and that's the problem. -- nm - loosilu Nov 4, 10:14
Break it off. You don't want to date the same guy for your whole 20s anyway. Mix it up. -- nm - Dr.Vermin Nov 4, 10:05 1
- Translation: Be a ho. -- nm - ty97 Nov 4, 10:10
first, bang the doorman. Second, move to his city -- nm - decline Nov 4, 10:05
offs - znufrii Nov 4, 10:00
she needs to ask him to honestly say how long ago he knew they were going to offer the dream job. -- nm - zork Nov 4, 10:00
I broke up with my girlfriend of 3.5 years over almost this exact same scenario. -- nm - TFox Nov 4, 10:00 2
- If they went to college, it sounds like they started dating as sophomore/juniors for two years, then have been long-distance since due to work. - ty97 Nov 4, 10:09 1
  - An important consideration is, after two years of LDR, there's a real strong chance if you move you're going to want to break up in 6 months anyway. - TFox Nov 4, 10:21
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- Agreed -- nm - amoxy Nov 4, 10:06 1
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- right? i mean, she might be in school, so can't. but if it's just one more year, then wait and move. -- nm - Andie Nov 4, 10:01 13
  - she's not in school; she works. but she talks about his dream job, not hers. so sister needs to move. -- nm - amanda Nov 4, 10:01 12
    - Yeah, it's weird to me that she doesn't talk about her job, where she is, why she wants to be there, etc. -- nm - mara Nov 4, 10:06
    - yeah i missed 'the getting started' implying she's working. if she just has some entry level job, pack it up and move chickie, -- nm - Andie Nov 4, 10:04 9
      - I feel a piece is missing: Why did they agree to go to her city originally? It's l ike she left out a key fact -- nm - ty97 Nov 4, 10:07 8
        
        i feel like if there was a really compelling reason for her city she would have mentioned it. -- nm - Andie Nov 4, 10:08 1
        
        I tend to think these are edited sometimes but don't know. -- nm - ty97 Nov 4, 10:09
        
        and the "we have to do another year of distance and then I have to move" part is weird. - TFox Nov 4, 10:08 5
        
        A long contract? - Will Hunting Nov 4, 10:23
        
        that's why i thought maybe school. -- nm - Andie Nov 4, 10:09 3
        
        yeah, i think this makes sense. -- nm - TFox Nov 4, 10:14
        
        it does sound like that. -- nm - loosilu Nov 4, 10:14
        
        maybe "I need this job for x years before I move on/go back to school"? -- nm - amanda Nov 4, 10:13
    - BUT WHAT ABOUT MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!. signed: Kim Kardasian -- nm - Beaker Nov 4, 10:03

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