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ARGH. I am being denied the opportunity to bring a vegetarian main dish to Thanksgiving at ILs. "oh no, nothing heavy. just bring a fruit salad or

Posted by kare (aka kare) Nov 7 '11, 11:50

vegetable if you want to bring something more."

umm, it's so I have a main dish to eat, dummy.

argh

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I sincerely think she's trying to help - or thinks she helping - " don't go to all that trouble" - Epiphany Nov 7, 11:56 29
- she said she was planning to make a separate portion of gravy for me and use vegetarian broth in the stuffing so it's been on her mind. - kare Nov 7, 11:57 24
  - Well, you gotta bring something to put that delicious vegetarian gravy on :) -- nm - con_carne Nov 7, 12:00
  - don't mention it again, but bring something smallish. like, not a single portion, but not enough to feed the whole fam. -- nm - loosilu Nov 7, 11:59 22
    - it's just f-ing rude to be all, "oh, you can eat a couple of the side dishes. do NOT bring a main dish that you know you can eat." -- nm - kare Nov 7, 12:02 21
      - Make something super delicious just to make them all jealous ... like pumpkin or squash lasange ... for ONE! -- nm - BroDuckJen Nov 7, 12:07 11
        
        pumpkin or squash? I thought you said something delicious? -- nm - dogbert Nov 7, 12:09 2
        
        if you've never tried it - don't be a Pixie :) -- nm - BroDuckJen Nov 7, 12:16 1
        
        you know what is delicious in lasagna? meat - dogbert Nov 7, 12:19
        
        oh damn, i just ate the last single serving of butternut squash lasagna last week. i'd frozen a couple and they were awesome. -- nm - kare Nov 7, 12:08 6
        
        i'd be tempted to hide something on you so you don't starve, but, sit there at dinner with a half empty plate and 'smile bravely'. - Andie Nov 7, 12:10 5
        
        seriously, pregnancy hunger is like nothing else. if i don't eat (and it usually needs to be a balanced meal) i feel *really* sick. - kare Nov 7, 12:14 2
        
        she doesn't want you to get 'hangry' that day. -- nm - Diva Nov 7, 12:17
        
        make more of that lasagne ... if there's too much I'll come eat it :D (it's delicious stuff - had it here at a local restaurant) -- nm - BroDuckJen Nov 7, 12:15
        
        heh. tempting. (jeff is just going to let her know that we will be bringing some sort of main dish for me.) - kare Nov 7, 12:12 1
        
        oh no - no you MUST go - and do that imitation of Bill Murray in What about Bob - when he's eating the corn - do it as you eat your own dish that you - BroDuckJen Nov 7, 12:17
        
        mmm...lasagna's a good idea. -- nm - Diva Nov 7, 12:08
      - totally agreed. -- nm - loosilu Nov 7, 12:06
      - maybe they are planning on making a main dish that you will be able to eat. - sycor Nov 7, 12:05 4
        
        she's not. -- nm - kare Nov 7, 12:06 3
        
        so she is being passive aggressive? most people I know think of mac and cheese as a side dish at thanksgiving. everything but turkey is a side dish. - amanda Nov 7, 12:08 2
        
        i ... think maybe? i honestly haven't decided if she's p/a or just sometimes ... doesn't get it. -- nm - kare Nov 7, 12:10 1
        
        I'm guessing the latter. It sounded less like "YOU MAY NOT BRING ONE" and more like "don't put yourself out." -- nm - Dr.Vermin, just IMO Nov 7, 12:27
      - you're pregnant. bring a kare + baby sized portion of whatever main dish you'd like so you'll feel sated. -- nm - Diva Nov 7, 12:05 2
        
        and on T-giving, when you show up with it, say you had an insane craving for it. -- nm - loosilu Nov 7, 12:07 1
        
        No way. You bring it and eat it and be done with it. No explanation needed, IMO. - Jim Nov 7, 12:18
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  - and it's crazy but there are people who will assume that veggiterians will simply " eat around" the meat in a dish. - Epiphany Nov 7, 11:57 2
    - very true. Speaking of tru, hurray, I'll have to figure out where the dairy is hidden. -- nm - loosilu Nov 7, 11:58 1
      - butter...in EVERYTHING -- nm - zeitgeist Nov 7, 12:00
Did you like, ask permission or something? And if so, why? -- nm - Jim Nov 7, 11:55 3
- i said, i will bring a vegetarian main dish. maybe mac and cheese. what else can i bring? dessert? salad? - kare Nov 7, 11:55 2
  - I would count mac and cheese as a side dish. bring it. -- nm - amanda Nov 7, 11:59
  - pizza! -- nm - Don Homer Nov 7, 11:56
bring it anyway so the laws can write a whining hax chat letter about their daughter in law that we can offs about -- nm - dogbert Nov 7, 11:54 1
- Don't worry, I'm already cribbing the rough outline here for the fake column. -- nm - Carolyn Hax Nov 7, 11:55
Dummy is right. Bring what you want to eat. Halve the recipe, maybe? -- nm - mara Nov 7, 11:51
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- i guess i'll just bring something but only a single portion just for me. -- nm - kare Nov 7, 11:51 10
  - and when you eat it keep one arm defensively wrapped around the plate and eat it with your mouth as close as you can to the plate - dogbert Nov 7, 11:58 2
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      - you guys had a rough childhood in those orphanages -- nm - zeitgeist Nov 7, 12:01
  - that's a little weird, isn't it? i'd just bring something (full size) and say 'oh, i wanted to contribute." -- nm - Andie Nov 7, 11:52 6
    - she is actively telling me NOT to bring the full-size something. -- nm - kare Nov 7, 11:52 5
      - Is this a passive/aggressive IL issue? or just clueless host? Have you or would you ask what is on the menu for you and other non carnivores? - zeitgeist Nov 7, 11:57
      - Find out what she's making, then make the vegetarian equivalent, and make sure your dish wins. -- nm - Will Hunting Nov 7, 11:54
      - i honestly think i'd ignore. -- nm - Andie Nov 7, 11:53 2
        
        (unless it's an oven-space issue, like she has no way to reheat your dish, etc.) -- nm - Andie Nov 7, 11:53 1
        
        and in that case, bring a crock pot. -- nm - amanda Nov 7, 12:02
- this -- nm - Beaker Nov 7, 11:51

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