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nobody cares: this actually happened to me when I was 21 or 22. my then-boyfriend, jim the lug, would come home from work and go straight to bed,

Posted by amanda (aka amanda) Dec 1 '11, 07:45

almost, and sleep until morning. I tried and tried to change myself, the situation, anything to sort of ... wake him up, but nothing worked. nothing's said in the letter about medication, but jim refused to even consider that he might have a problem that needed addressing.

it got to a point of course where I blamed myself -- I wasn't good enough smart enough funny enough pretty enough etc -- and I almost started to get depressed. I asked him to leave, he said he was too tired to, he still loved me, he wanted to work it out.

I lasted about six months of the darkest part before I just walked away. it fucked me up for a *long* time, though.

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at least you realized it. good for you -- nm - CQ draped in tinsel Dec 1, 07:50 3
- I'm not unsmart, really. I like being happy. and awake. -- nm - amanda Dec 1, 07:51 2
  - heh. hell, I dated someone for 5 years before coming to my senses. I was effin miserable -- nm - CQ draped in tinsel Dec 1, 08:02 1
    - I think everyone has a story about hanging on longer than they should have. - mafic Dec 1, 08:04
on the upside, 85% of the time he'd rather sleep than talk to you -- nm - Max Dec 1, 07:47
big hugs - that sucks big time -- nm - Epiphany Dec 1, 07:46 1
- water under bridges. it's fine now. I almost never think about it. -- nm - amanda Dec 1, 07:48

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nobody cares: this actually happened to me when I was 21 or 22. my then-boyfriend, jim the lug, would come home from work and go straight to bed,

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