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friday hax chat q: he has always been the shoulder for his "best friend" to cry on. but when he tries to tell her problems, she changes the subject

Posted by jingle pixie (aka chris) Dec 2 '11, 10:42

A FRIEND IN NEED...

My best friend and I have known each other for over 20 years- and we have been through many ups and downs. For the past 5 years she has been in an abusive relationship, and even though I express concern, have been her "emergency shelter" and encouraged her to go to counseling- I am afraid she will never leave him. In the mean time I have been through a divorce, several health problems (me and my children) and money woes. Whenever the conversations strays from her "good-for-nothing boyfriend" to me and my "problems" she tunes out, changes the subject, or tells me she needs to go. I feel like I am always there for her...and she does not reciprocate. I love her but I feel this friendship has become one-sided. What do I do? I have talked to her about it and she says she is sorry and she'll listen to me more -- yet, never does.

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I had a friend like that. Had. -- nm - Diva Dec 2, 10:52 1
- i swear i can change -- nm - jingle pixie Dec 2, 10:53
You said it yourself, you're her 'emergency shelter'. She treats you like a bomb shelter. - Dr.Vermin Dec 2, 10:48
just stop listening to her. or take a drink every time she says the word "I" or "me." (I did this once with a very self-involved friend. - amanda Dec 2, 10:47
Is the letter writer a male or Female? -- nm - amoxy Dec 2, 10:46
sleep with her abusive boyfriend -- nm - Beaker Dec 2, 10:45 6
- i think the "he" could be a "she" hard to tell from the question -- nm - jingle pixie Dec 2, 10:46 3
  - All I know is he needs to have sex with one of them -- nm - Beaker Dec 2, 10:48 1
    - or she -- nm - Beaker Dec 2, 10:49
  - I started out thinking "he", but now I think "she". -- nm - loosilu Dec 2, 10:48
- obvie. -- nm - znufrii Dec 2, 10:45 1
  - it's the only way to be sure -- nm - Beaker Dec 2, 10:46

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