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In response to
"Dear Prudence: My boyfriend wants me to call him "Daddy" during sex"
by
Beaker
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Prudie's response
Posted by
Beaker (aka anniebecca)
Jan 13 '12, 18:04
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Dear Not,
When one person offers to fulfill a romantic partner�s sexual fantasy, it has to be said with the knowledge that the next thing you know you could be dressing up as Alvin the Chipmunk or attaching electrodes to your nipples. Of course, some couples are lucky to have (or they seek out someone with) meshing fantasies; that�s why S goes so well with M. For other couples, one person is willing to get into the plushies, or have fun with the car battery cables, as an occasional indulgence of their partner�s proclivities. However, I think your letter is an excellent reason why the urge to utter the phrase �I want to make all your sexual fantasies come true� is one that should be vigorously suppressed. Many, maybe most, people have erotic streaming videos running in their heads (they�re free and unlimited!). This doesn�t mean it would be more exciting to make them flesh and act them out. I don�t know if your boyfriend is a closet pedophile. But someone whose sexuality really was oriented toward children probably wouldn�t find it terribly exciting to be with a grown woman dressing up as a school girl. Lots of women have rape fantasies but would be horrified to find themselves actually being attacked. You�re being somewhat unfair to your boyfriend. You offered to act out his deepest secrets, and when he laid out the Good Ship Lollipop scenario on you, you freaked. You need to get out of the pigtails and schoolgirl uniform and have a calm talk with your boyfriend. Say you know you�ve already gotten a denial from him about being interested in little girls, but you want to discuss some more what you�ve discovered about each other. When he explains what part this fantasy has in his erotic life, you may have to tell him that despite your earlier offer, you�re just not comfortable participating in it. A sense of humor about this would be helpful. He still may end up being the man for you, as long as he accepts you can�t be daddy�s little girl.
�Prudie
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