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friday hax chat q: she is getting married this summer (small affair). she's already disinvited her dad's 25-year old "mistress" what if she shows?

Posted by encyclopedia pixie (aka chris) Jan 27 '12, 11:34

YOU CAN'T MAKE THIS UP - PLEASE HELP!

Hi Carolyn, I am 25 and getting married this August, absolutely no problems there. I am marrying the best guy ever. But there is, of course, family drama. My father is in the middle of his second divorce (still legally married) and living with his 25 year old...mistress. He brings her everywhere. My sisters and I are beyond nice and polite to her when she is around. I don't care if she is around when we are involved in events in his life (dinners at his place, etc..), but I feel that his choices should not affect my life. My mother, step-mother, and future mother-in-law are uncomfortable with the idea of her being at the wedding (not to mention it would be a spectacle), and neither my fiance nor I think it is appropriate for her to bring his girlfriend (FWIW this is a small wedding, even cousins have been cut from the guest list). We have told that she is not invited and he always says things like "time may take care of this problem" (he claims they will be engaged in a few weeks, but as he is still legally married that is about as meaningful as gum on the bottom of my shoe) so my question is: what do we do if he brings her to the wedding?

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What mafic said. But I think you will be surprised at what a non-issue this will be on the day in question. - Dr.Vermin Jan 27, 11:50
tell your father, again, that she is not invited as you are keeping it small and to *close* family (ie: people you know). Tell him that if he brings - Andie Jan 27, 11:49
this is a crazy position to be in. how awful - she should make her dad promise not to bring her - make him say the words. - Epiphany Jan 27, 11:48 4
- Let's be honest about the fact that dad is going to do whatever the 25-year-old wants. -- nm - David Jan 27, 11:56 1
  - yeah. -- nm - Epiphany Jan 27, 11:57
- I wonder if Dad is helping to pay for it. -- nm - Diva Jan 27, 11:55 1
  - oooooo - good question - that does make it tricky. You'd think Dads would know the sensitivity of the issue and no pull some crap - Epiphany Jan 27, 11:57
pick up the phone and tell your dad he's invited, but his girlfriend isn't. -- nm - CQ: The Water Ox Jan 27, 11:42 1
- she did. -- nm - Andie Jan 27, 11:49
Give dad an incorrect address/date for the wedding -- nm - decline Jan 27, 11:37
Easy. Ask them both to leave. -- nm - mafic Jan 27, 11:36

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friday hax chat q: she is getting married this summer (small affair). she's already disinvited her dad's 25-year old "mistress" what if she shows?

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