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Real Life Dear Prudence scenario........

Posted by Walt_Disney (aka Walt_Disney) Feb 7 '12, 06:49

From Mrs Disney sister:

Friend A has been single for a number of years and recently decided to go on e-Harmony. Shes only been on a couple of weeks. Friend A is meeting up with Friend B and other friends for dinner last Saturday. Friend A is checking out her latest matches from e-Harmony. One of the matches looks like Friend B's husband. Upon reading the profile, she discovers it is the husband. She is horrifed by this and tries to decide if she should tell Friend B and if so how.

She prints out a copy of the profile and tries to decide out what to do. Shes goes back to the profile to discover it is gone and there is no trace of it anymore. She still has the printout of the profile. She did end up meeting with the friend but did not say anything. Friend B and her husband have had a rocky relationship for a few years but Friend A is still worried about what if anything to say.

So what does ST think Friend A should do?

Responses:

I'm wondering, if you're looking to cheat on your partner, why would you go on eHarmony? -- nm - Roger More Feb 7, 07:05 21
- too bad the profile is gone, because my first choice would be to make a date. -- nm - loosilu Feb 7, 07:11
- maybe he's not looking to 'cheat'. maybe he wants out of the rocky marriage and he needs something to jump to. - Andie Feb 7, 07:09 7
  - I have a friend who has been doing this for over 20 years. -- nm - Diva Feb 7, 07:10 5
    - Heh - in a way, don't we all? -- nm - Roger More Feb 7, 07:12 3
      - I've never been in a relationship where I started seeing someone else before I had ended the current relationship. -- nm - Diva Feb 7, 07:14 2
        
        I mean - don't we all have a friend like that? - Roger More Feb 7, 07:15 1
        
        oh - *laughing* -- nm - Diva Feb 7, 07:16
    - yeah, I have a friend who is doing the same thing. -- nm - decline Feb 7, 07:11
  - (which is still scummy and cheating, but you know what i mean, it's not JUST for something on the side, maybe.) -- nm - Andie Feb 7, 07:10
- because he's a big friggin' hypocrite who is looking to cheat on his wife with a good Christian woman. -- nm - Diva Feb 7, 07:08
- I thought the fish one was the Jesus one. -- nm - sycor Feb 7, 07:08 4
  - Well, guys like me used that site. soooo -- nm - Bacon Feb 7, 07:12
  - thank you! my brother! I thought so too - not true, not true at all. - Epiphany Feb 7, 07:10
  - plentyoffish and 'fishers of men' is not the same thing. -- nm - Diva Feb 7, 07:09
  - so wrong -- nm - Andie Feb 7, 07:08
- That was one of my thoughts too.....thats why Ashley Madison exists...you know what you are getting into!!!! -- nm - Walt_Disney Feb 7, 07:07
- it happens all the time. I think people think, "oh, if I'm in a relationship, my SO will never look to see if I have a profile at like match.com." - the amanda nones Feb 7, 07:06 3
  - eHarmony is jesusy *and*you pay for it. OKQ and POF are free. -- nm - loosilu Feb 7, 07:10
  - Okcupid is the one for freaks, and cheaters -- nm - Bacon Feb 7, 07:07
  - Your IM - exactly. -- nm - Roger More Feb 7, 07:07
- Using the 29 levels of Infidelity -- nm - Bacon Feb 7, 07:06
. -- nm - Bacon Feb 7, 07:04
st answer - time to get freaky with friend b's husband - tRuMaN Feb 7, 07:00
threesome -- nm - Beaker Feb 7, 06:53
strip club! -- nm - encyclopedia pixie Feb 7, 06:52
I'm assuming those matches go both ways, so husband saw he was matched with a friend of hers and delete-panicked? - TFox Feb 7, 06:50 1
- and if she doesn't, the husband has to start wondering why she hasn't.... -- nm - Beaker Feb 7, 06:57
Friend A and Friend B are close friends, right? If it were my close friend (and i was either A or B) i think i'd want to know/tell. -- nm - Andie Feb 7, 06:50 10
- And here the BUT.....since its only a print profile, do we think that Friend B will believe Friend A?..... - Walt_Disney Feb 7, 07:00 3
  - you sort of a have a point - what if she tells - Friend B and husband have a blow up, get back together - Friend A is going to be out in the cold - Epiphany Feb 7, 07:10
  - what would Friend A's motivation be in trying to break them up? I mean, she could even say it like this... - Andie Feb 7, 07:03
  - maybe, but Friend A should just ask her what she thinks she is getting out of doing this? - Beaker Feb 7, 07:02
- yep -- nm - ty97 Feb 7, 06:56 5
  - and, i say this because there is NO QUESTION of his intentions here. - Andie Feb 7, 06:59 4
    - well, they could be seeing other people and not yet telling friends. it happens, you know. -- nm - the amanda nones Feb 7, 07:04 3
      - heh. true enough. mail it to friend anonymously! -- nm - Andie Feb 7, 07:05 2
        
        genius!!! I swear Andie - you are so good at this -- nm - Epiphany Feb 7, 07:12
        
        *ding* (and copy to Bob). -- nm - the amanda nones Feb 7, 07:05
yikes. -- nm - Don Homer Feb 7, 06:50

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