valentine's day eve dear prudence chat q: what's an appropriate valentine's day celebration with an estranged, cheating husband?
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pixitude (aka chris)
Feb 13 '12, 10:58
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WHAT'S AN APPROPRIATE VD FOR AN ESTRANGED, CHEATING HUSBAND?
My husband of 24 years (the last 2.5 years of which he's been involved in an affair with his crush from high school) has been living across town since early fall, but we continue to see each other everyday, mostly so he can visit with our 15- and 17-year-old kids (who don't know about the affair and expect us to patch things up). We normally do some sort of nominal thing with the kids for Valentine's Day, and he suggested we take them to a new frozen yogurt shop. I agreed at first, but now I can't stomach the thought of seeing him at all tomorrow. I don't want to hurt the kids, but I'm thinking of faking being sick, so they'll have to go with just him. Any alternative suggestions?
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Yeah, I agree with the "kids are old enough" to either learn the truth, or at least miss two-parent-together-time and still avoid emotional scarring. -- nm
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Dr.Vermin
Feb 13, 11:29
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Catch a film. That's 2 hours of not talking right there. -- nm
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Loyola
Feb 13, 11:08
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the kids aren't that stupid. they may be hopeful, but not stupid. let him take them for yogurt. period.
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Andie
Feb 13, 11:03
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how about just sayign no to him, take the kids someplace nice and tell them dad's not there because he's a cheat and a liar
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decline
Feb 13, 11:03
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Bang the Ice Cream Guy
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Epiphany
Feb 13, 11:03
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Mom: The kids know about the affair, they are old enough to pick up on clues -- nm
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amoxy
Feb 13, 11:02
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how about telling him to be the one to beg off sick? -- nm
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Max
Feb 13, 11:00
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say you will meet him there, then burn his new place down -- nm
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Beaker
Feb 13, 11:00
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