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TT knows etiquette; given that it's gouche to baldly ask for money, what would be the most polite way to ask attendees of a wedding reception to

Posted by landbeck Feb 13 '12, 17:57

gift the bride/groom with money instead of presents?

My daughter is admirably practical. Plus, she's flying back to school after the reception, and we don't want to ponder shipping a crate of kitchen implements.

"Monetary gifts in lieu of presents appreciate" is the best we've come up with so far.

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Thanks folks; word of mouth works for me! -- nm - landbeck Feb 13, 18:44
Show Me The Money!! -- nm - Bacon Feb 13, 18:16
This might help -- (link) - mara Feb 13, 18:12
tell people the couple is registered with Coldwell Banker Realtors, or College tutition office, they'll get the hint, but its not unusual that couple - zeitgeist Feb 13, 18:10
Let me ask this: if a couple just doesn't register anywhere, what percentage of gifts would you figure would be cash? I'd say well north of 50%. - TFox Feb 13, 18:06 3
- I'm the father of the bride; I have *no* shame, only the speculative $$ that will be fleeing away. - landbeck Feb 13, 18:12 1
  - OK, well, I mean, if this really is a "maximize the cash" situation for you, then maybe you should be more blunt. - TFox Feb 13, 18:13
- this was our experience as well, even though we had a registry. -- nm - Reagen Feb 13, 18:09
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- *beams* Gracias. -- nm - landbeck Feb 13, 18:08
"You couldn't possibly come up with anything we'd be interested in" - prayformojo Feb 13, 18:03
"pawnable gifts, please" -- nm - Reagen Feb 13, 18:02 3
- I really can't go any higher than forty bucks. -- nm - Rick Feb 13, 18:03 2
  - you paid to much -- nm - Remlik Feb 13, 18:12
  - hee -- nm - pixitude Feb 13, 18:03
"The couple are registered at M&T Bank" -- nm - pixitude Feb 13, 18:01 5
- this is cute. ("the couple, both students, living far from their homes, are registered at M&T bank.") -- nm - amanda jones Feb 13, 18:25
- (serious answer: how big of a ceremony/reception is planned? is it something that could be verbally communicated to invitees??) - pixitude Feb 13, 18:05 3
  - Couple will be living in Utah. One big reception in Maryland, one in California, probably 100+ or so invitees at each reception. Three completely - landbeck Feb 13, 18:07 2
    - i like the advice of couching it in terms of "the couple is saving for a down payment on their first home together and any help you can give to make - pixitude Feb 13, 18:12 1
      - This ... i had a good friend that asked money towards their honeymoon to Venice too - I think most people want to be told what to do legit. -- nm - JenBro Feb 13, 18:18
It's "gauche" and it is gauche. - the liioulu with Feb 13, 18:01

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