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bonus hax chat q: their second-grade (school) kid wants to go play with his friend who has two gay dads. they're uncomfortable with that

Posted by pixitude (aka chris) Feb 21 '12, 11:31

GAY PARENTS

My son is in second grade and a classmate of his has "two daddies." My son wants to go over to his friend's house to play, but we are nervous about this. I know my opinion is probably unpopular, but it is still my opinion: I do not know if this is a good environment for my son at his age. We do not talk about topics like homosexuality in our home. We do not want to field questions yet about these kinds of topics; we want him to be able to just be a kid instead of dealing with complex sexual issues. His friend plays at our house and he is a very nice boy, but eventually his "daddies" will to know if my son can go to their house. How do we tactfully tell this couple that we would prefer if their son plays at our house? My sister thinks that I will just have to "get over it" and send my son over there. But isn't it my right to monitor environments and control influences for my children? I fear that children in modern society are exposed to far too much far too soon -- what happened to letting kids just be kids?

Responses:

Speaking of this, I've never mentioned this to ST. My aunt made a comment about not letting her children be around gays. - MDH Feb 21, 11:52 21
- why is that gay men are assumed to want to (a) make passes at homophobic straight men and (b) be so worrisome around male children. - Andie Feb 21, 12:12 5
  - Venn Diagram Man, a circle for logic! Now a circle for fear! *they don't overlap* -- nm - con_carne Feb 21, 12:25
  - too many don't want them to be around girl children either. there's no sense to make there or with most of the rest. - b. Feb 21, 12:17
  - wait, of course we assume every straight man is a danger to our daughters. -- nm - TFox Feb 21, 12:17 1
    - yes, of course. -- nm - Beryllium Feb 21, 12:18
  - Exactly. :-) - MDH Feb 21, 12:15
- OMG. -- nm - Jen SI Feb 21, 11:59 1
  - huh? sfan. -- nm - loosilu Feb 21, 12:01
- You have been... forbidden? Wow. -- nm - Spawn - The Blood Feud God Feb 21, 11:55 9
  - The quote: "You cannot tell the other family members, ESPECIALY not your grandparents. They are already not in good health, this will kill them." - MDH Feb 21, 11:58 8
    - I really can't imagine this. I'm sorry this is happening to you. -- nm - Mel Profit Feb 21, 12:24
    - Me. -- nm - MDH Feb 21, 12:06 5
      - :( - - b. Feb 21, 12:09
      - when you say this stuff, I don't know whether to be more angry or sad. I just can't comprehend that your family would say those things to you. -- nm - loosilu Feb 21, 12:08 3
        
        if nothing else, it reminds me of how much further we have to go as a society. -- nm - znufrii Feb 21, 12:09 2
        
        the lack of self awareness, alone, is stunning. They can't see that all of the badness is from THEIR reaction. -- nm - loosilu Feb 21, 12:11 1
        
        *nods* -- nm - znufrii Feb 21, 12:14
    - for the second part of your IM ... is that general, or specifically you? -- nm - loosilu Feb 21, 12:02
- mean people suck. -- nm - znufrii Feb 21, 11:54
- unfortunately, you can't pick your relatives -- nm - decline Feb 21, 11:54 1
  - Well, if they're willing to disown you, you kind of can ... in a way. -- nm - Beryllium Feb 21, 11:55
*slaps you*. Get over it. -- nm - Andie Feb 21, 11:46
What does your husband think of thi--Saaaaay... You wouldn't by any chance be *divorced*, would you? - con_carne Feb 21, 11:38
Hitler blood. nm - Dignan Feb 21, 11:37
I think a second grader can handle "all families are different. You have a mommy and a daddy; Bobby has two daddies; Susie has just a mommy" etc. - kelly Feb 21, 11:36 6
- I like this answer -- nm - Epiphany Feb 21, 12:00
- I rather agree with this. Though I sorta understand the parent's concern. - Dr.Fledermaus Feb 21, 11:56
- THIS. And she just wants someone to justfy her bigotry. -- nm - MDH Feb 21, 11:46
- and this. -- nm - znufrii Feb 21, 11:40
- It's Aiden and Emma now, grandma. nm - Dignan Feb 21, 11:37
- yes but this family probably has dildos laying around the house. -- nm - Max Feb 21, 11:37
OFFS -- nm - Spawn - The Blood Feud God Feb 21, 11:35
"I know I'm homophobic but please say it's okay for me to hate people for arbitrary reasons." -- nm - David Feb 21, 11:33 2
- What, she doesn't want any gay germs to get on her kid. What is the problem with that? -- nm - Spawn - The Blood Feud God Feb 21, 11:37 1
  - her child will be forever altered, in a terrible terrible way, if exposed to two men who live together. -- nm - Andie Feb 21, 11:50
if you want your kid to just be a kid, then let him go play at his friend's house dingabt -- nm - Beaker Feb 21, 11:33 1
- this - znufrii Feb 21, 11:35
"what happened to letting kids just be kids?" -- nm - Max Feb 21, 11:32 1
- Jeez, lady. Overjustify much? -- nm - con_carne Feb 21, 11:34
get. the f*ck. over it. -- nm - znufrii Feb 21, 11:31

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