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In response to "invite everyone." by groiny

i say no - it's really kind of annoying to be invited to pre-wedding events, that cost the guests money, and then not be invited to the wedding. -- nm

Posted by Andie (aka Andie) Mar 7 '12, 07:55

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- if it were me, i'd say 'hey, i'd love to have you, but (bride's name) was forced to leave a lot of people off her guest list - Andie Mar 7, 08:31 1
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- ugh. - groiny Mar 7, 08:30
If guests chip in for the pre-wedding events, that's all the more reason to invite more people -- nm - con_carne Mar 7, 08:13 6
- "you are good enough to be be part of something i profit from/drink for free at/party with, but not good enough to come to my wedding." -- nm - Andie Mar 7, 08:28 4
  - It still works, IMO. As I advised above, JD invites the people, then shows it to the bride so she can be the bad guy. -- nm - con_carne Mar 7, 08:32 2
    - that's sort of silly though. does that mean Jack gets to UN-invite them? that's horrible. and he's hosting the party, so it would be up to him, -- nm - Andie Mar 7, 08:34 1
      - No, it doesn't. - con_carne Mar 7, 08:42
  - girls is catty. nm -- nm - groiny Mar 7, 08:31
- that's not how girl rules work. :) -- nm - loosilu Mar 7, 08:16
Plus there's the awkwardness of knowing you didn't make the cut for the wedding, so everyone's uncomfortable. -- nm - pmb Mar 7, 08:04 17
- girls are weird. A guy: "Bachelor party? Woohoo!. Oh, I'm not going to the wedding? WOOOHOOO!!!!!!" -- nm - decline Mar 7, 08:18 1
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- That doesn't mean it has to be JD's problem. If you have two different people inviting two sets of invitees, you are asking for this kind of problem. -- nm - con_carne Mar 7, 08:10 13
  - The party is for the bride, not JD. It has to follow the lines she's drawn with the wedding. -- nm - pmb Mar 7, 08:15 12
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    - This makes no sense. Are you saying all the in-laws and great grandmothers should be invited to the bachelorette party, then? -- nm - con_carne Mar 7, 08:19 5
      - This is a job for Venn Diagram Man! - TWuG Mar 7, 08:22 1
        
        and not every person at the bachlorette has to be invited to the wedding. - groiny Mar 7, 08:25
      - that's not how it works at all. -- nm - loosilu Mar 7, 08:21 1
        
        I was being facetious -- nm - con_carne Mar 7, 08:22
      - No (although I've seen that happen). I'm saying you can't expand beyond the guest list. You don't have to invite everyone who is on the list though. - pmb Mar 7, 08:21
    - then she should handle all this herself then. nm -- nm - groiny Mar 7, 08:17 4
      - No, but the party is for her. It should be aimed at putting together the people she wants there. -- nm - pmb Mar 7, 08:23 3
        
        so, then, she should make a list, and JD is not to veer off that list at all. nm -- nm - groiny Mar 7, 08:24 2
        
        That would be fine. Or he can make a list and run it by her. Either is fine. -- nm - pmb Mar 7, 08:31 1
        
        Which is what I advised in the first place -- nm - con_carne Mar 7, 08:33
- yes, now she has to look them in the eye and tell them why they're not invited. -- nm - loosilu Mar 7, 08:06
Agree. Pre-wedding festivities are really limited to invited guests. -- nm - pmb Mar 7, 08:00
this. big gime. -- nm - loosilu Mar 7, 07:56 3
- Oh. A gime. -- nm - Homer Mar 7, 07:57 1
  - Worst wedding gift ever. You can't even return them. -- nm - TWuG Mar 7, 07:58
- time. -- nm - loosilu Mar 7, 07:56

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i say no - it's really kind of annoying to be invited to pre-wedding events, that cost the guests money, and then not be invited to the wedding. -- nm

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