boston.com Love Letters - My Friends Hang Out w/My Ex
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Apr 10 '12, 08:33
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Hello,
I am not sure which category this falls under. My boyfriend of two years and I broke up a little over a month ago. We lived together and I fully expected to share the rest of my life with him. He pulled that rug out from under me when he told me that he wasn't ready and that he didn't want to bother trying to deal with the issues we had. Needless to say, I was devastated.
I moved out, found my own place, and am trying really hard to move on. Besides dealing with the fact that he was never really clear with me about why he gave up, it seems he has also inherited our friends. They hang out with him and go drinking with him and I never hear from them. All women by the way, who I had been close with for years before he ever came to town and met them. They pretend to care about me, but they are hanging out with him all of the time. I do not know what I did to push them away but the fact is I really need my friends right now. A few of my good friends have been really great to me during my heartache but it is hard for me to ignore the ones who haven't. Maybe he is just a ton more fun than me but I have to admit it really hurts to see them spending so much time with him -- considering I was there for each of them through every heartache and up and down they had. I guess I was just hoping for some reciprocity.
How do I deal with my disappointing friends? Also, how do I move on and make new single ones? It doesn't seem fair that he gets everything.
I am heartbroken and devastated to say the least and I am just looking for the best ways to move on.
� Newly Lonely, Boston
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