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In response to
"David......."
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groiny
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Not David, but . . .
Posted by
pmb (aka pmb)
Apr 17 '12, 10:10
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Here's the thing, you can't control anyone but yourself. Personally, I do not think loosi has bad intentions when these things happen, I just think she's singularly bad at recognizing what HER line is with people (which is different than other people's lines). But when people allow those moments to push them off the board or into anger and confrontation they're basically just giving loosi power over their lives. Pointing out politely to loosi that she's crossed a line (and I'm referring to the person whose line has been crossed, not defenders) and then letting it go is going to be far more effective and less disruptive on your life than leaving or getting into a huge argument. But only you (meaning whoever is involved) can control how you respond.
I understand that not everybody sees it the way I do as far as intentions, but that point of view also makes it easier to let things go. Life is too short to let your own preferences and well-being be impacted by others in this way. I understand that Max got offended and I understand why, but he will miss out on being here and sharing with the rest of us (and we'll miss him too). This is going to change loosi at all. And while I know many of you would like to banhammer loosi from here, I think that's going to far as well. I think she often contributes and I think it would be unfair to let a group decide who can and can't be here. So, in the end, what I'm saying is, the energy you're spending in anger at loosi and in the "controversy" is ultimately wasted energy. You cannot change her. You can remind her of the lines, but she is who she is. You can only control how you respond and how you let it affect you.
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