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ok, I need some advice now......

Posted by groiny (aka groiny) Apr 25 '12, 12:52

I got the email of the alleged (hi ML) person X.....

How the hell does one approach this subject?

While I know this person, I do not know them well, so it is not like they would expect to hear from me.

Responses:

can you get their snailmail? Maybe email would work but it may be worth a fee to have a lawyer contact them and suggest a conversation is in order - zeitgeist Apr 25, 13:16 1
- what possible grounds could he have for 'legally' demanding a conversation? if i got a letter from someone telling me i had to talk to them - Andie Apr 25, 13:19
What's your end game? What could this person possibly tell you other than flat-out confirmation? - TWuG Apr 25, 13:12
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Do you really want that email forwarded all over the country? Then go ahead and do it. -- nm - zork Apr 25, 13:09
I understand where you are. You have to know. - Inigo Apr 25, 13:07
You should use simple terms. 8===> (*) ? -- nm - oblique Apr 25, 13:01
Do you know where this person works? Confront them in person? - amoxy Apr 25, 13:00 3
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  - Yeah I know it has really bad idea written all over it but I still think the truth would come out -- nm - amoxy Apr 25, 13:02 1
    - heh. Should have read all the responses. -- nm - Iron Spawn Apr 25, 13:05
Ask them if they can help you get 23 million dollars out of your country. -- nm - Qale Apr 25, 12:59
I see no upside to this. -- nm - David Apr 25, 12:59 1
- I have to agree. I mean, face to face you can at least et a read (but then run the risk of ripping their head off), but an email does not seem to help - Iron Spawn Apr 25, 13:04
I think this is a situation between you and your wife --- confronting this other person (especially with all the games going on) isn't going to lead - Will Hunting Apr 25, 12:54 10
- so, there would be zero chance to find out the truth then? nm -- nm - groiny Apr 25, 12:55 9
  - I honestly, at this point, don't see this person being truthful. - Will Hunting Apr 25, 12:59
  - what reason would he have to tell you anything? - znufrii Apr 25, 12:59 5
    - well, they are also married, so there is a 95% chance that they would not admit it. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 25, 13:00 4
      - Zero chance they put anything in writing, then. -- nm - Iron Spawn Apr 25, 13:09
      - Do you know that guys wife? -- nm - amoxy Apr 25, 13:07
      - That's actually different since their spouse deserves to know. -- nm - David Apr 25, 13:02
      - then don't bother, really. it won't answer your doubts. -- nm - Andie Apr 25, 13:01
  - well, there is no guarantee of the truth from either of them, really. - Andie Apr 25, 12:58
  - I would not trust this person to tell the truth. -- nm - loosilu Apr 25, 12:56
does your wife know you are about to email them? - Andie Apr 25, 12:53 54
- that post has since been deleted. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 25, 12:55 53
  - possibly painful question - what, in your heart of hearts, deep in your gut, what do you THINK is the truth? -- nm - Andie Apr 25, 12:57 52
    - let's just say that I had an odd feeling about this person before any of this came out.... - groiny Apr 25, 12:59 51
      - man oh man -- nm - Epiphany Apr 25, 13:07
      - ugh. -- nm - Mel Profit Apr 25, 13:03
      - Shit, that sucks man -- nm - amoxy Apr 25, 13:01
      - That's a bad sign. -- nm - David Apr 25, 13:01
      - what is your wife's explanation? -- nm - Andie Apr 25, 13:00 46
        
        chick just starting shit. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 25, 13:01 45
        
        Chick starting shit would be "Her Haircut sucks" or "Their dog craps in the house" - amoxy Apr 25, 13:04
        
        "Why would she believe it's possible?" -- nm - David Apr 25, 13:02
        
        Is there a plausible reason why this woman would want to make trouble? -- nm - mara Apr 25, 13:02 9
        
        well, supposedly, she is a bitch. Which I do not know, because I do not really know her. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 25, 13:03 8
        
        How does your wife feel about the fact that you're clearly upset by the allegation? -- nm - David Apr 25, 13:04 7
        
        she is upset about it. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 25, 13:05 6
        
        That's a good sign fwiw. -- nm - David Apr 25, 13:07 5
        
        and she is the one who gave me the guys email. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 25, 13:08 4
        
        that's also a good sign. -- nm - loosilu Apr 25, 13:09
        
        this is signficant -- nm - Epiphany Apr 25, 13:09 2
        
        meh. - TFox Apr 25, 13:09 1
        
        Plus, the thing of him being married. -- nm - Iron Spawn Apr 25, 13:21
        
        but, no reason *why*? people would need a really big reason to start something that destructfully epic. -- nm - Andie Apr 25, 13:02 32
        
        well, she did not realize that I was friends with the person whose wall she posted it on. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 25, 13:02 31
        
        So, a dumbass as well as a gossip monger. She sounds classy. -- nm - David Apr 25, 13:08
        
        regardless. you don't post something like that for no reason. you know there will be fallout. -- nm - Andie Apr 25, 13:03 29
        
        this is what she sent me...... - groiny Apr 25, 13:04 28
        
        I agree with Mel that she seems angry. Did your wife and her...have a thing maybe? - David Apr 25, 13:11 5
        
        there are other, non-sexual scenarios that would explain it, fwiw. -- nm - loosilu Apr 25, 13:14 2
        
        I didn't say it was the only one, but that would explain some stuff. Her having a crush on the married guy is another. -- nm - David Apr 25, 13:15
        
        Thousands, really. nm - Dignan Apr 25, 13:15
        
        that would be an interesting twist -- nm - Epiphany Apr 25, 13:13 1
        
        Only if this movie isn't on Cinemax. If it is, it's a certainty. -- nm - Will Hunting Apr 25, 13:14
        
        wow. - znufrii Apr 25, 13:11
        
        this person sounds very very angry. - Mel Profit Apr 25, 13:08
        
        Any ideas as to the timing -- why was this posted now? How long has it been since your wife and this women have interacted? -- nm - mara Apr 25, 13:08
        
        this sounds like Bad Idea Jeans, but... I think you should take this bitch up on her offer. - TFox Apr 25, 13:08 3
        
        I don't agree with this in that if someone were lying about this, any request for further details would require upping the ante. - David Apr 25, 13:14 2
        
        i don't see any real reason to believe she's lying. - TFox Apr 25, 13:15 1
        
        That's a good question. -- nm - David Apr 25, 13:16
        
        wow. ugh -- nm - prayformojo Apr 25, 13:07
        
        affairs? ugh -- nm - oblique Apr 25, 13:07
        
        that's ugly. but you don't post on someone's wall (even if she doesn't know you're freinds with that person), and not think about starting shit. - loosilu Apr 25, 13:07
        
        well, as much as this person sounds horrible, i think you need to talk to them, and in person. - Andie Apr 25, 13:06 11
        
        I could be wrong but I think he was talking about talking to the man who was involved in possible affair. - loosilu Apr 25, 13:07 10
        
        he was. i think he should talk to this person instead. -- nm - Andie Apr 25, 13:08 9
        
        Yes. And is it possible that mrs. groiny has warned mr. x? nm - Dignan Apr 25, 13:12 4
        
        possible? I'd take it as a given. -- nm - znufrii Apr 25, 13:13 3
        
        Then without proof, he'd be a dead end. nm - Dignan Apr 25, 13:14 1
        
        I would assume so. -- nm - loosilu Apr 25, 13:15
        
        I'd be checking my phone records (home and cell) -- nm - oblique Apr 25, 13:14
        
        agreed -- nm - Epiphany Apr 25, 13:10
        
        ok, yes. -- nm - loosilu Apr 25, 13:09
        
        Yeah, I think he needs to hear her full story. -- nm - Inigo Apr 25, 13:09 1
        
        If only because if he doesn't, he'll always wonder what she had to say. -- nm - mara Apr 25, 13:10
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- well, yeah, it is a he. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 25, 12:53

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