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"no apologies needed. that's just so rough. :( - "
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My mom, honestly, is *amazing*.
Posted by
kelly
May 8 '12, 16:40
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She has been taking wonderful care of him. The hopsice nurses are amazed. And she has indicated that she'd like to go to nursing school once this is all done. I think she'd make a great nurse.
My mom has a lot of different feelings and issues to deal with herself - the biggest of which being that she had separated from my father in the months prior to his cancer coming back (and this was years overdue; we kids were like "what took you so long?" - she had been unhappy for a long time with him) but moved back to take care of him when he got sick again. So I know there is a lot of guilt she was dealing with, as far as taking care of a man she's been with since she was 15 yrs old, someone she loved as the father of her children and cared for, but not being in love with him. My mom is a very tough woman, but from what I understand there's been a lot of crying lately. I've offered to be there in any way she needs or wants me to be, but she says she is okay and it's enough that I'm offering.
I am trying to look at the positives; I got to dance with him (healthy) at my wedding; although my son won't know his grandfather, they at least got to meet, and I have pictures of that. The family gets a kick out of their meeting; my father has never bought a damn thing on his own for anyone. Not his kids, not my niece, and usually he needed to be reminded by us for Mother's Day and her birthday (until he finally got a clue once we were older). Yet the day before Nathan and I arrived in RI 4 wks after he was born, my dad (sick as a dog) ran out and bought Nathan a small squishy Red Sox bat and ball set. We were all like , "wait, Dad did *what*?" Nathan now has the honor of being the only person to ever get a gift from my dad (his Poppy) "just because", with no prodding from anyone else. I'll always think fondly of that. He was so damn excited about having a grandson.
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