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In response to
"I have to be honest, I'm sick of the "be the bigger person" way of life with this family."
by
kelly
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I get that. My wife and I disagree about this too when it comes to dealing with my ex. The thing is, for me anyway, you have to separate what makes
Posted by
pmb (aka pmb)
May 29 '12, 13:21
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you feel better (in the short run) from what's most effective. Do you want to achieve your goal or let off steam. Sometimes you have to draw lines because that coincides with your goal, but sometimes it's counterproductive. My wife is like you. She thinks that being right means you should get things the way they should be, but unfortunately life is not that simple. Other people have their own definitions of what's right (even if they're objectively wrong). You can beat your head against a wall or you can do what you need to do to get you to the place you want to go.
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