Yikes! Dear Prudence..
Posted by
Don Homer (aka DonHomer)
Jun 11 '12, 12:15
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Secret Vasectomy Was Cause Of Our Infertility
For the past two years my husband Harry and I have struggled with infertility. As a teen I dealt with an STD that could have affected my ability to have children. For that reason, and because Harry said his sperm count was fine, I have always blamed myself for our inability to conceive. We've kept our struggle with infertility very quiet. Thankfully, our families have never pressed us about when we're going to have kids. Last week I broke down to my wonderful mother-in-law about how difficult this experience has been. She frowned at me then said, "Harry reversed his vasectomy, then?' I was shocked, because Harry never mentioned having a vasectomy to me, but apparently he had one as a young man. When I spoke to Harry he admitted that he hasn't reversed the vasectomy and that he wasn't sure he wanted kids. He thought if we tried for long enough and never conceived I'd eventually give up trying. He's apologetic, because he never realized how much I blamed myself for our infertility. He has offered to have his vasectomy reversed or to adopt a child to make his lie up to me. My best friend thinks Harry's a sociopath, though, and that I should divorce him for being incredibly cruel. I'm in shock, devastated, have no idea what to do.
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Responses:
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dang -- nm
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Diva
Jun 11, 12:32
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Here is the response, fwiw:
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Don Homer
Jun 11, 12:32
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what else is he hiding? -- nm
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zork
Jun 11, 12:28
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Seriously F'd up.
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Epiphany
Jun 11, 12:26
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"to make up for lying to your wife" is the perfect reason to have or adopt a child! -- nm
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Ender
Jun 11, 12:26
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I'd be filing divorce papers. -- nm
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kelly
Jun 11, 12:22
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that is insanely cruel. -- nm
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Andie
Jun 11, 12:22
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gold medal in passive aggressiveness. FTD. -- nm
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loosilu
Jun 11, 12:18
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gah!
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znufrii (10 days)
Jun 11, 12:18
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F the doorman -- nm
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Beaker
Jun 11, 12:16
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