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amongst the many reason I could never be polyamorous - from the boards at my wedding site:

Posted by Andie (aka Andie) Jul 5 '12, 06:27

"Hello, all! :)

I will be marrying my fiance of 2 years this October. To complicate matters, however, we just entered a polyamorous relationship in which I am now dating one of the groomsmen. I'm thrilled about this new chapter in my love life, but I understand that there will be many new challenges to face.

We don't plan on "coming out" to everyone any time soon. As friends figure it out, we'll come clean, but we aren't making any big announcements to family or coworkers. That being said, the new boyfriend is still going to be a major part of the wedding this fall. I'd like to give him some spotlight in the ceremony or at a significant time during the reception. Something subtle that honors my relationship with him without overshadowing or distracting from my day with my fiance.

I'd love your ideas and suggestions!"

this gives me a headache thinking of maintaining all this.

Responses:

yeah, that seems a bit not-well-thought-out in the timing department there... -- nm - znufrii Jul 5, 07:07
Make the boyfriend and the husband dance off. The husband still gets to win your hand, but the boyfriend gets to demonstrate he's a better lover. -- nm - Max Jul 5, 06:57 1
- "I challenge you to a beat off" (nm) - drunk boyfriend SI Jul 5, 07:11
I agree...it sounds way too high maintenance. -- nm - Walt_Disney Jul 5, 06:33
I can't even wrap my head around this; having a ceremony vowing to be with this one person for your lifetime; while trying to make sure you boytoy - Will Hunting Jul 5, 06:32 6
- Presumably the have a different/non-standard intent for their ceremony and vows. - ty97 Jul 5, 07:08
- What I would like to know is who gets first dibs each night: the groom or the boy-toy?? -- nm - Don Homer Jul 5, 06:36 2
  - it ain't gay if it's a threeway -- nm - Beaker Jul 5, 06:54
  - Prima Nocte! -- nm - oblique Jul 5, 06:36
- I was at a wedding once where a woman marrying a dude had her female lover as her maid of honor and the dude didnt know. - amanda Jul 5, 06:34 1
  - (kinda hot) -- nm - Max Jul 5, 06:55
Maybe I just don't get it, but why bother to get married at this point? -- nm - spamlet Jul 5, 06:32 2
- Tax benefits! -- nm - Qale Jul 5, 06:44
- she's a traditional girl -- nm - oblique Jul 5, 06:33
While everybody else is wearing tuxes, have him go shirtless. or bottomless. -- nm - Strongbad Jul 5, 06:31
Cast your vote for "ass grab" - oblique Jul 5, 06:30 1
- oh, i'm staying out of that topic. there are others way more qualified to answer! -- nm - Andie Jul 5, 06:32
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Sounds lovely! -- nm - znufrii si Jul 5, 06:29 9
- heh. honestly, i'm very 'whatever floats your boat', but, it seems so high maintenance, that's all i see. -- nm - Andie Jul 5, 06:30 8
  - I'm all like, why get married if you want to bang other dudes? but that's just me. -- nm - amanda Jul 5, 06:31 7
    - [deleted] 6
      - Seriously, if it's a benefit-grab, just hit up the Justice of the Peace, save the expense - Will Hunting Jul 5, 06:43
      - so far only one person has replied - here is her response: - Andie Jul 5, 06:37 2
        
        Having the boyfriend doing a reading on polyamorous relationships at the wedding? Yeah, that's not one your friends and family will talk about forever -- nm - spamlet Jul 5, 06:45 1
        
        hee. -- nm - Andie Jul 5, 06:47
      - even taxes favor the single. -- nm - amanda Jul 5, 06:37
      - Not to mention the expense of having a wedding. -- nm - Strongbad Jul 5, 06:36

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