Mitigating Prudie's earlier advice, comes this winner.
Posted by
miffed67
Jul 26 '12, 09:25
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Really? REALLY? I'm thinking that the fact that she's still married to what must be a very understanding, patient, peach of a guy is gift enough! Greedy ho!
Dear Prudence,
My husband and I have an ongoing dispute I hope you can resolve. I would like him to give me a little present once a month. Nothing elaborate�a pair of earrings, a blouse, a trip to the spa. If he were to do this, it would make me feel special and appreciated, but he says that if he's expected to give me something according to a schedule, there's nothing special about it. He does give me spontaneous gifts from time to time, but I think it would be more romantic if he did it regularly. It would tell me that he's always thinking of me. My father has always done this for my mother, and they've been happily married for 46 years!
�Giftless
Dear Giftless,
Fortunately for your mother, you cannot marry your father. That leaves you having to make a brand new marriage with your own husband, which is better than fruitlessly trying to recapitulate that of your parents�. I agree with your husband that if �romantic gift time� comes around with the regularity of the gas bill, it�s unromantic. You also fail to mention what you plan to do to make a concrete demonstration of tender feelings for your husband. Perhaps you envision not an exchange, but a one-way sign of appreciation. Yet what you desire is more than simple recognition. You want evidence that your husband is always thinking of you. Normally, someone thinking of nothing but you is cause for a restraining order. You need to figure out why you are so insecure that your husband is required to constantly prove to you that you exist. I don�t know if your parents� marriage is healthy or sick, but you are unlikely to get to 46 years of bliss if you don�t stop making stupid demands about what should be going on in your husband�s head.
�Prudie
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Responses:
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Whores get whorepresents. You get nothing. -- nm
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Max
Jul 26, 10:33
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I know that gift receiving is one of the four accepted ways people view love, but it's always seemed disfunctional to me.
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Inigo
Jul 26, 09:43
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There is nothing romantic about a schedule. -- nm
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The Dark Spawn
Jul 26, 09:42
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That's a fantastic reply. -- nm
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David
Jul 26, 09:36
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don't we normally post question first then answer later? so that we can have "F your father" replies? -- nm
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world's most beautiful creature
Jul 26, 09:31
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Did Prudie use "recapitulate" properly? -- nm
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Mop (199 lbs)
Jul 26, 09:30
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Greedy Ho! and Daddy Issues. I like the advice -- nm
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Epiphany
Jul 26, 09:29
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she has a crush on her dad. -- nm
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world's most beautiful creature
Jul 26, 09:27
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That might be my favorite advice from her ever. -- nm
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Inigo
Jul 26, 09:27
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nailed it. -- nm
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znufrii
Jul 26, 09:26
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