meredith's LL response to - She's Having Someone Else's Baby
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Jul 31 '12, 07:58
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I've read this letter about 1,000 times and I keep going back to the "unmedicated bipolar" sentence. That's what gets me.
Can your girlfriend parent this child if she's not getting the professional help she needs? How has her behavior changed (the drinking, going out, etc.) since she found out she was pregnant? Does she want you around for this experience because she loves you -- or because you represent the other half of a financial arrangement?
I understand that it would be devastating to lose her, but wouldn't it be more devastating to stay with someone who cheated on you, ignores her own health issues, and copes with stress by drinking too much and acting out?
If the baby weren't in the picture, I'd be telling you to get into therapy and to take some space from this woman. I'd be telling you to figure out why you repress your emotions, why you had an emotional affair, and why you stay with someone who forces you through highs and lows.
The baby doesn't really change my advice. You need therapy and an exit.
We're supposed to feel safe in relationships. Baby or no baby, you're just not safe.
Readers? Can she raise this baby? What about the cheating? What about the bipolar? Can they save this seven-year relationship? Should they be in therapy together? Help.
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