boston.com Love Letters: I Like Men From California
Posted by
Deev Another Day (aka Diva)
Nov 5 '12, 11:38
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Hi Meredith,
I'm not from Boston, but I've lived here on and off for the last decade and have come to really love this city. The problem is I can't seem to find a Boston guy that I like! I'm 29 and have been single for a couple years, since my last real (3-year) relationship. In that time, I've met hundreds of men (both online and in real life) and have gone on dozens and dozens of dates. (I even went on a "Dinner with Cupid" date. That didn't work out, either.) The guys like me, but I just never feel that "spark" with any of them. It's not a case of having an unrealistic 100-point checklist or anything like that; I'm just looking for a feeling, I guess, and I rarely feel it with any guy.
Looking back over my romantic history, the few guys who have given me that spark have invariably been non-Bostonians. Specifically, I have a major thing for California guys. Five years ago, I met a Cali boy while I was in Boston, and after dating long distance for a few months, I made the move to San Francisco to be with him. The relationship lasted three years, but we grew apart, and I decided I was over San Francisco and wanted to return to Boston. I've been back here for two years now, single but avidly dating.
Several months ago, I met ANOTHER San Francisco guy on vacation in Boston, and felt major sparks with him (for the first time in literally a year). Since then, we've visited each other cross-country a couple times, and text every day. I know I still barely know this guy, but he seems like everything I am looking for. He also seems to be crazy about me, though we're both very cautious and somewhat jaded from years on the dating scene. Both of us have done the move-cross-country-for-a-significant-other thing before, only to have it not work out.
My question is: should I move back to California? Not necessarily for this one guy, though obviously he's a major factor here. It's just that, as I look over my years of dating in Boston, the evidence seems pretty clear: I don't like Boston guys (as romantic partners). And when I do like a guy, he's always from California! I love Boston and my friends here and don't particularly want to leave, but I fear that I will be single forever if I stay. Is it crazy to think that my Mr. Right is waiting for me on the West Coast?
� California Dreamin', Boston
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