meredith's Love Letters response to 'I Come From Money'...
Posted by
Deev Another Day (aka Diva)
Nov 6 '12, 06:55
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"I am a bit concerned that I tie the identity of "the rich kid" to my self-worth."
That's all you, my friend. You have to deal with that issue. I can't help you with that.
I can tell you that you seem to adore your boyfriend. You have trouble empathizing with his upbringing, but you admire his work ethic. He represents what you want in a man -- someone who takes care of himself, provides for his family, and embraces responsibility.
Money issues can cause divorce when people spend differently, when they lie to each other about bills, and when their lives become limited because of financial stress and debt. As far as I can tell, you guys don't have those problems. Your big issue is that you're a rich person and he's not. Again, that's on you. You say that it "can also be crippling to grow up as the child of privilege and have giant expectations placed upon you." I'm not sure what you mean by that. Are you placing these expectations on yourself?
My advice is to talk to your boyfriend about how you'd manage money as a couple. Is he comfortable taking money from your family? Would you be comfortable supporting his? What are your thoughts about money and kids? And how do you want to live when you're older? Your backgrounds are different, but your present-day philosophies about money might be quite similar.
The now is what's important. The rest of it is just in your head.
Readers? What's the problem here? I know people who are like this in reverse (they don't want to date rich people). Is that bad? Can they work this out? Help.
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