Dear Cary: My boyfriend's going to be sharing a bed with a woman but he swears nothing will happen
Posted by
amoxy (aka amoxy)
Nov 15 '12, 17:55
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Dear Cary,
I�m in my early 20s, a bisexual male, and so is my boyfriend of a couple of months. Things have been going pretty well with the guy � I suppose we�re still in the honeymoon phase, but I�ve been through enough to deal with that. There�s just been one thing worrying me recently: He�s gonna move into a new apartment with a friend of his pretty soon, this girl he�s known for a couple of years now. The pre-furnished apartment�s got just one bedroom they plan to share, which was irrelevant to the larger scheme of things until I found out that it�s got only one bed � that they both intend to sleep in. When I asked my boyfriend if he thought the idea was somewhat strange, he brushed away the issue (not meanly, though) by saying it�s a large bed and the girl�s friendzoned and generally implying continued fidelity.
We live in a pretty warm part of the world so the fact that there�s an air conditioner in the bedroom is apparently a plus. I�ve known my boyfriend for years and I know he wouldn�t cheat, but the matter still bugs me at a very deep level. If this was my girlfriend, there�s no way in hell I�d be OK with her sharing a bed � king-size or otherwise � with a dude. Yet to make something like this an issue, so early on in the relationship, and the added factor of additional costs in modifying the already furnished apartment AND the air conditioner issue (it�s really, really hot here) makes me feel like I�m overreacting. How do I deal with this?
Sleeping Alone
amoxy says: It is so obvious I won't even say it
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