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moderately interesing hax chat question: how much should the out of work spouse be doing around the house with their free time?

Posted by pigby (aka chris) Feb 6 '09, 11:19

Expectations for the newly unemployed: This is, sadly, an increasingly common scenario: newly-unemployed spouse, looking for a job but with considerable time on their hands. What expectations of additional chores and projects are fair? I respect that he is looking, but that still leaves at least 6 extra hours a day that he could be spending some of doing needed maintenance, etc. Please help me balance his stress with my "what are you doing all day?!" disbelief.

Responses:

damn near most of it -- nm - Epiphany Feb 6, 11:31
since it is a he, far less than a she should -- nm - crash davis Feb 6, 11:29 2
- trish isn't even here to get all riled up. - Andie Feb 6, 11:30 1
  - I know, the rest of you ladies will have to pick up her slack and get riled at me for her. -- nm - crash davis Feb 6, 11:32
Get in the kitchen and make me a pie! -- nm - Strongbad Feb 6, 11:28
I didn't get anything done when I was out of work. -- nm - JaxSean Feb 6, 11:23 2
- And ST responds: "We know" -- nm - oblique, eighth best slackertalker Feb 6, 11:24 1
  - heh. -- nm - JaxSean Feb 6, 11:24
peple without a focus in life have less motivation, less drive less organization, if you're working you tend to be more focused and organized at - zeitgeist Feb 6, 11:22 1
- that may explain 'why they don't' but doesn't answer the 'whether they should' part. -- nm - Andie Feb 6, 11:23
pretty much all of it (the housework that is.) -- nm - Andie Feb 6, 11:21 3
- Yup, there should be a conversation but the newly unemployed person should be doing most of the cleaning. -- nm - David Feb 6, 11:22 2
  - seriously, if you are home all day, every day (pretty much), it's not that hard. -- nm - Andie Feb 6, 11:24 1
    - hey, you know, I'm *here* on ST all day, so get off my back, cut me some freakn slack, sheesh - zeitgeist Feb 6, 11:33
Having gone through this, there's a certain ammount of time that needs to be spent job hunting online, plus some slack time, but that still leaves - oblique, eighth best slackertalker Feb 6, 11:20 1
- agreeance -- nm - SyrDragon Feb 6, 11:44
One week off to get over the shock, and then yeah, get his/her ass in gear and do stuff around the house inbetween job hunt -- nm - The Coraline Cat Coalition Feb 6, 11:20 6
- I'd even give then another week to do nothing but focus on job stuff. -- nm - znufrii Feb 6, 11:24 5
  - Sure...*knock on wood I never have to try this out* -- nm - The Coraline Cat Coalition Feb 6, 11:28
  - sure, totally fair. two weeks adjustment. -- nm - Andie Feb 6, 11:25 3
    - when i left my first firm (not of my choosing), i think i deep wallowed for a good month - pigby Feb 6, 11:26
    - and then he needs to start picking up the slack. -- nm - znufrii Feb 6, 11:25 1
      - i know my mother went a little crazy when my dad retired. he retired young (55) and then just didn't know what to do with - Andie Feb 6, 11:28
depends, how long has he been unemployed? 2 weeks would have a completely different set of expectations than 2 months... -- nm - znufrii Feb 6, 11:20
Um... all of it? -- nm - Dr.Vermin Feb 6, 11:20

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